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a blog by Infertile Naomi, September 10, 2010

Dear TLC,

I am a big fan of your network and enjoy many of your programs. However, as a woman experiencing infertility, I kindly request that you think about changing some of the names of your shows.

    Show Title: Quints By Surprise
    A story about Casey and Ethan Jones who wanted to add one more baby to their family and were thrilled with their fertility treatment resulted in quintuplets. I would understand if the couple had not done fertility treatments and — surprise — you have five babies. Now, that’s a surprise. But when you have multiple eggs, sometimes you get multiple children. Where’s the surprise?
    Better Title: Surprise! Your Fertility Treatment Actually Worked this Time!

    Show Title: 19 Kids and Counting
    The story of the Duggar family, who can procreate at the drop of a hat and have named all their kids starting with the letter J. Please stop procreating already. While some of us can’t even seem to have one, you are already blessed with so many children. Perhaps Michelle Duggar can offer to become a surrogate for the rest of us infertile folks? She is a human fertility machine.
    Better Title: 19 Kids. Please Stop Procreating

    Show Title: I Didn’t Know I was Pregnant
    I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant is a series that reveals the astonishing stories of women who conceive and carry their babies all the way to labor and delivery with no idea that they were ever pregnant. Meet Lilah, a 35 year old woman who thought she had gained 30 pounds from too many donuts. Meet Cheryl, a 20 year old, who went to the hospital for a stomach ache and came home with twins. And, 29-year-old April thinks she has food poisoning, but it turns out it wasn’t bad barbecue, it was a baby.
    Better Title: I Didn’t Know I Could Be This Dumb

Here are some of my other suggestions for future, more realistic, TLC programming …

    Show Title: Why Didn’t IVF Work on the First Attempt?
    A story of women who spend thousands of dollars on in vitro fertilization, but the sperm and egg refused to fertilize.

    Show Title: I Am a Fertility Drug Addict
    The story of five women getting high on Clomid and fertility injections.

    Show Title: I Haven’t Ovulated Since 1980
    The story of women dealing with PCOS who haven’t seen their menstrual cycles since the TV show Family Ties went off the air.

And although I do enjoy all your pregnancy and baby-themed programming, I suggest that you think about putting an additional infertility warning before the show. Instead of “This program may contain material unsuitable for children,” change to “This program may cause tears and heartache for any couples dealing with infertility.”

Just a thought.

Thank you for taking some of my suggestions into consideration.


Infertile Naomi
Blogger of ‘999 Reasons to Laugh at Infertility


If you don't like it how about you make it a private message board. It's a free country and you're not a dictator. Pull the stick out and get your panties out of a bunch.

Why do people post such rude comments? It's meant to be a humor post. If you don't know how to laugh, leave.

i think it was a pretty funny post, except for the part about the Duggars. that part was the only part where the judgement/hate came through. they see children as a complete gift and i love the message that sends to others who might be terrified of children and put off child-bearing for too long. shouldn't we, as infertiles, be trying to prevent that from happening? i for one don't wish this infertility mess on anyone and if the Duggars show one person what a gift children are then i'm for it.

I hate that they put so many shows about "surprise multiples" when people are knowingly putting 8,6,5 ect embryos in there, they know their is a possiblity a very large one that they will get that many babies. And a side note to that is where do they find IVF doctors that are morally loose and will implant that many to begin with?

My husband and I call that show "I didnt know i was pregnant" "I didnt know I was pregnant because Im fat" because MOST of them are over weight people that dont notice.

I wish there were more shows about infertility because I have and still am suffering from infertility. I suffered for 2 years and we were saving for IVF when my husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer and is undergoing surgeries. So I am slightly bitter seeing people take advantage of what I would gladly give my left arm for.

Infertility is not funny. You are not funny. Your mama ain't funny.

"The only way to get through life is to laugh your way through it. You either have to laugh or cry. I prefer to laugh. Crying gives me a headache."

— Marjorie Pay Hinckley

TLC did have a show for awhile that followed 4 couples through IVF. I can't remember what it was called - Baby Doctor or something.

They showed the preparations with injections and emotional struggles - they showed egg retrieval and fertilization - they showed the eggs as they grew and the discussion of the couple as they decided how many to implant - and they were there at the house when they got the call after the 2WW on if she was PG or not. I loved it and cried every single time. It was very real - sometimes all 4 would get a BFN - rarely more than one couple would conceive.

*edit* I found it finally - it was on Discovery Health and it was called "The Baby Lab".

Love it!! I also hate the show on Discovery, "I'm Pregnant and...".

One title was "I'm Pregnant and... May be Having a Dwarf." Well, that's what happens when you have sex with a dwarf...


Why would you spend your precious time watching shows that "cause tears and heartache?" I'll admit this is a weird example but I am a little over-obsessed with buying a house (which we can't do right now) and I finally realized all those shows about home buying and renovating are not good for me. It just makes me want it more and obsess, why do that to myself when I could spend my time doing something productive? Our problems only consume us if we let them, and that goes for trivial things all the way up to infertility. Don't let it rule your life. Log off, turn off the TV, and go enjoy your life as it is instead of wishing these days away.

This is such a great post. Whoever said infertility is not funny is right, but we have to laugh at it anyways. If we don't laugh, we cry, and we do plenty of that already.

Thank you, Naomi, for making such a difficult thing like IF actually funny. Many of us laugh (and cry) at thinking about our overstuffed Sharps containers, or husbands stabbing our behinds, or whatever. I can't forget that bottle of wine I drank before that first Ovidrel shot and that was a tiny little needle! It takes laughter to survive and you are doing a great job!

Oh, and two thumbs up for "journey to the center of the uterus." Ha!! Love it! How about "Tubing down the...oh wait, there's a blockage." Or maybe "Swim team rejects (i.e. sperm)."

You should write one to MTV asking them to change the titles of "16 and Pregnant" and "Teen Mom" to "Are You Jealous of A Teenager?".

This was so funny, on all those shows I have thought the EXACT same thing, especially the "I didn't know one' You are hilarious and love reading this site, thanks for bringing laughter to my day.

i think it would be great if some new shows were about the journey of is part of true life...i would watch them. just my opinion


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