TTC in Winter? Here's an RX

a blog by lashaundra, Mar. 10, 2010

Infertility is such a romance-killer. It can really stress a relationship, so much so that it makes it difficult to concentrate on your greatest blessing: your partner. The key to staying in check is to recognize your stress factors and try to lessen them, whenever possible.

Of course, to all of this, add winter's doldrums. S.O.S.!

Here's the bright side: Winter is a great time to have a couple’s massage, go on a trip, or just schedule some time together to reflect on what made you fall in love with each other in the first place. Most likely, it was long before either of you were involved in the trying and consuming world of infertility.

Also, don't forget about “me time.” Fertility treatments can put a tremendous amount of stress and pain on your mind and body. For those of you who don't regularly get manicures and pedicures, now’s a perfect time to relax and indulge. How about a spa day, just for you, or bring friends along? Allow yourself to buy something special just for you. Pamper yourself and get back to your center.

It has been my experience that you may be under stress without knowing it. In hind sight, going through 12 years of infertility has shown me that your mind can often “protect” itself.

It wasn't until a year or so after we adopted our son that I looked back and realized the vivacious, fun, happy woman I used to be prior to infertility had faded a bit.

Take heart, she comes back.

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