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Being a Baby Hog?

a blog by Suzanne Rico, July 11, 2012

In 2004, the woman sitting across from me at the fertility retreat was 39 years old, from the Bay Area, and athletically built – all things we had in common. But instead of tearing up like the other emotionally wounded participants struggling to have a child, this woman looked a little sheepish as she shared her story.

“I feel bad for even being here,” she explained to this otherwise childless group, “because I already have a child. But I just really want another.” Right there, I vowed that if I ever were lucky enough to have a kid of my own, I would never look God’s gift horse in the mouth. One squalling, scrunchy-faced ticket to the mommy club would be fine, thank you.

Ha, ha, ha. Two years later, after my son was born, I learned secondary infertility can be a tough as the regular kind. I had set myself up for a painful fall: “I’m a pro at this baby-making thing!” I thought smugly, when we began trying for another child. “My body knows how to do it now!”

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Secondary Infertility (Living in Two Worlds)

a blog by Donor Diva, December 22, 2011

While I was leading an infertility forum, a woman came seeking support. I don’t remember how old her daughter was, but I think she was at least 18 months old at the time. The woman was upset that her fertility doctor wouldn’t let her start Clomid because she was still breastfeeding. As much as I prided myself on being supportive, I found it difficult to support her. She already had one beautiful daughter, why was she so desperate to conceive another? And why didn’t she want to stop breastfeeding?

Now I find that I can answer both of those questions.

Struggling with Secondary Infertility

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Secondary Infertility: Get the Treatment You Need

a blog by David Kreiner, M.D., F.A.C.O.G., Mar. 31, 2010

Sometimes my patients who have difficulty conceiving their second child feel like second class citizens in the infertility world. Unlike their infertile peers without children, they perceive that friends, family and even their doctor’s offices do not have the same sympathy and concern for them as they do for others without a child. I have had patients with secondary infertility express guilt and anger in addition to the routine sadness often associated with the inability to conceive.

Those of you with secondary infertility need to know that you are not alone in feeling this way. My patients all express this alienation which exacerbates the depressing effects of infertility. Women with secondary infertility have as much a right to fertility care as anyone else, as well as the same respect and attention.

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Secondary Infertility: The Invisible Disease

a blog by Deborah Moore, March 4, 2010

I'm lucky. I have a gorgeous, perfect daughter who will turn 4 later this year. She is a shining light in my life, bringing my husband and me more joy than I knew possible. And yet, during this time of TTC for a second child, I find myself melancholy, unfulfilled and despairing.