Infertility Support Groups

Infertility Support Groups

Infertility can be a lonely experience when friends are having children and you are still trying. People who mean to be supportive often say the most unhelpful things. But you probably know that – you’re probably frustrated (or angry or sad) each time you get invited to a baby shower; and most likely you’ve been on the receiving end of those “just relax” comments. So joining a group where your feelings and frustrations will be understood, and where you’ll become empowered as a patient, may be just what you need.

People in individual or couple’s therapy may join a group as well because they want support from others having the same experiences.

Types of Groups

Support groups can take many forms. In most cases, a mental health professional leads the group and helps keep the discussion focused. Some groups are for women or men only; some are for couples. They often meet weekly, for a set number of weeks, and for a set amount of time – an hour to an hour and a half is common. A typical group size is six to eight individuals or four to six couples, but that can vary.

Other groups are “drop-in” in nature; members attend as they wish, and there is no professional leader.

Both groups serve different purposes. In the professionally-led groups, deeper levels of discussion are possible, and as trust builds members bond. Often, after the group officially ends, they continue to meet without a group leader. Drop-in groups are a good place to network and learn about resources in your area.

Mind-body groups, which integrate relaxation and stress management strategies along with cognitive restructuring, are not traditional support groups, but are gaining popularity.

Significant Benefits

A 1999 study reported that the depression and anxiety rates for women in either a professionally-led support group or in a mind-body group were greatly reduced compared to the women who were not in a group. In addition, the conception rates were 54 percent for the support group participants and 55 percent for the mind-body group participants, compared to the 22 percent conception rate of those who were not in a group within the same period.

Many infertility practices and clinics offer support groups or can help you find one in your area. Other helpful resources include RESOLVE and the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.