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Considering Sperm Donation

Deciding whether to use donor sperm can usher in emotional, practical and legal concerns. But it also opens the door to parenthood for thousands of people each year.

If you’re considering donor sperm, either:

  • You’ve learned that you or your partner’s sperm is the cause of your infertility, or
  • You’re a single woman or in a lesbian partnership and want to become a mom.

If you’re in a heterosexual relationship, you’ll first have to openly address your feelings regarding his infertility. This is hard for many men because in our culture, as in most, manhood is ‘measured’ by one’s virility. Most of us know this isn’t true — that, in fact, a sense of manhood is a mixture of feelings and thoughts set in motion by our culture. It’s what’s inside our heads that counts. Nonetheless, turning to a sperm bank requires couples to address this prickly issue.

When considering donor sperm, couples also must confront the fact that their child will be biologically linked to just one of them. This can arouse feelings of anger and loss. Take time to experience this loss. Grieving takes time.

Questions that couples and singles can explore are:

  • Does this feel OK to me? Might adopting be a better alternative?
  • How might I/we feel when people say, “S/he doesn’t look at all like you!”
  • How will I feel being Mom/Dad to a child who does not have a genetic tie to me?
  • What will I/we tell our child? Family and friends? Do we need to tell them?

Those considering the donor route get valuable insights from attending a support group. Talking to an experienced counselor can also help.

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Submitted by alfreds on Wed, 07/22/2009 - 10:40

Well one can consider donor insemination after reading this articles. This really gives quite a lot of information about sperm donation and related matters.

Submitted by Tee on Fri, 03/05/2010 - 13:41

Hello,
I would like to know the cost for articial insemination for my fiancee and I. We are a lesbian couple that lives in michigan and we been talking about this for four years now. We tired to find friends to donate to us but either they have girlfriends or they want to do it the old fashion way. We would like to be pregnant before we are 30. We are both 27 right now. So i would like to know what steps we need to take so we can have our baby soon.

Submitted by edos on Mon, 03/22/2010 - 11:06

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Submitted by Doug on Sat, 05/07/2011 - 02:46

Hello,

I would be interested in being a sperm donor. I don't have any kids but i would like to be part of the continuation of life. I'm 52, white, 5'11", average build, dark brown hair, hazel eyes. I just took a home sperm test, it tested good. I could help you out some financially. Live in Indiana. You can e-mail me at dlseger@copper.net or phone 812-678-3850. take care, Doug

Submitted by pepsi on Thu, 06/02/2011 - 08:53

hello,am in nigeria and am willing to donate for you through any means and i dont intent to claim the child at all. All you need to do is tell me to go about it and how much u are willing to pay for this.Any resnable offer will do.I can donate as many as possible times you want.I have my sperm screened.

Submitted by caligirl on Tue, 03/09/2010 - 20:19

My partner and I are looking to see how much it cost for artificail insemination. We have been trying at home but its hard to keep a donor. Most guys are uncomfortable with just helping and not getting to act on it. We are getting older and really want to have a family and give a child an amazing life. We need some help on how to get started and the cost so we can make our family complete. Thank you.

Submitted by Keith on Sat, 04/09/2011 - 17:12

I will give some one sperm to get pregnet if some one will give me an my wfe money to get her tubes repaired an reversed. So we can complete our family as well..

Submitted by ryan23 on Sun, 05/16/2010 - 13:12

I want two sell my sperm and make people happy.if you need sperm i can help am willing two donate my sperm two any1 who wants there dream family. i am 21 year old young man in the uk (grimsby) i have a 3year old son who is very good lookin and cute. email me if u think i could help you. gy_ireland@hotmail.com

Submitted by Patricia on Sat, 05/22/2010 - 15:37

hi,

how to start....
I am single lady and i would like to be a mum. I am French and live in London. Iam really interested in your advertissement.
Would you mind to talk?

thanks in advance for your reply,
Email= sunshine2mpt@hotmail.fr

Submitted by Anonymous2 on Thu, 06/03/2010 - 22:38

Want to know where locally I can donate sperm. my zip code is 64020.

Submitted by hi on Sat, 09/25/2010 - 04:14

i want to know the cost to use a sperm dona ot the best site to look for one in the uk me and my hubby have been trying 3 years to have a baby and not had much luck so i would love some help as soon a poss to find a good site to look on to help us have a baby thank you x

Submitted by lola on Sun, 10/10/2010 - 19:24

Hello I am looking for a sperm donor in Colorado for my wife and I we are a lesbian couple and we have a 7 year old and are ready for another!! Thanks for all and any help!

Submitted by Miss T on Thu, 12/02/2010 - 15:41

Hello

We are a lesbian couple looking for a sperm donor in the South Carolina, Georgia, or North Carolina Ares. We have a 12 year old already and would love to raise another child. The donor can be in the childs life if he chooses to. So if you feel you are the right donor please feel free to respond.

Submitted by geoff on Mon, 02/07/2011 - 08:28

im 43 and my partner is 31 i have 2 children and my partner is desperate to have a child, ive had a vasectomy 16 yrs ago so that route is a dead end, im happy for her to be fertalized through a sperm bank, im in love with her, and she deserves the chance of being a mum, im just writing to find out the chances and the costs involved, kind regards, geoff

Submitted by Carol on Tue, 02/15/2011 - 07:48

Hi me and my lesbian partner would love to have a baby can you send us some more information on how we can achieve this please

Thank You

Submitted by beth on Tue, 02/22/2011 - 08:21

Hi, I m single mother of one child and want to have another kid again. I need find a sperm donor guy who can help to gives

Submitted by Keith Strege Jr on Mon, 04/11/2011 - 09:54

hi, my name is keith im willing to give u some sperm to have another family for 100.00dollars. Im clean an not looking for action. Im also very fertile. Let me no six 0 eight- 5 four 8- 09 seven seven.. Let me no call or txt

Submitted by A. on Tue, 03/01/2011 - 05:52

I'm a 33 year old single, divorced male. In excellent mental and physical condition. No genetic ,inherited or current health issues and none that run on either side of the family. I'm college educated and an all around well rounded individual. I'm 5' 11" , 165 lbs, athletic build, blonde hair, blue eyes ( all American guy look). Strong jawline with masculine features. I was a collegiate athlete and have done some modeling and currently compete in triathalons. But most importantly, I have a great mind... well, I'd like to think that.... I'm looking to help couples out in need in return for minor compensation. I have a bi-racial daughter that is absolutely amazing and gorgeous, but not sure I want to have more children... if interested or just curious.... please contact me VIA this site.

Submitted by Andii on Tue, 04/26/2011 - 10:46

Hi,
I was just poking around and found this site and your ad. My new husband has had a vasectomy and of course I want another child. I have done a lot of research on sperm banks but it seems like so many hoops to jump through. I would like to find a private donor and liked your post. Please contact me via my email if you are still interested. Also, what is your compensation?
Thank you very much.
Andii

Submitted by hannah on Thu, 05/26/2011 - 07:32

hey im looking for a donor like you i am bi racial myself and am ready to start a family please email me at hoffman.hannah@yahoo.com i am 26 in a lesbian relationship and live in austell ga please contact me soon
thanks.

Submitted by claire on Tue, 03/01/2011 - 09:10

If you are considering donating sperm, or if you are looking for a sperm donor, it is recommended that you work with a licensed agency that does sperm donation. It is important that the sperm donor's medical history is known, that his sperm samples are screened, and that contracts are in place to outline the terms of the sperm donation. Even if you want to use a known sperm donor - someone you know - it may be recommended that you work together through a reputable organization that facilitates sperm donation. There are a couple of bloggers on FertilityAuthority, who provide good information on all aspects of sperm donation: Michelle Ottey, Director of Operations at Fairfax Cryobank and Cryogenic Laboratories; and Cappy Rothman, Medical Director of California Cryobank.

Submitted by jacksonville27 on Fri, 03/04/2011 - 12:01

i am a 27 year old single female and i would like to have a baby..i have some one in mind that would like to donate his sperm..What do i need to do.

Submitted by claire on Mon, 03/07/2011 - 11:09

Using someone you know as a sperm donor is called a "directed donor". It's important that you use a sperm bank to help coordinate the sperm donation. The male's sperm should undergo testing, he should have a physical and a blood exam, and a legal contract should be written to outline the terms of the sperm donation. Not all agencies work with directed donors, so you'll have to do a little bit of homework to find one to work with. Fairfax Cryobank and California Cryobank both work with Directed Donors.

Submitted by phentermine on Sun, 03/13/2011 - 07:00

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Submitted by wantsababy on Mon, 03/28/2011 - 03:47

I'm a single mother of a 6 year old boy and I want to have another baby before I turn 30. I would like to know how much does it cost to get articial insemination.

Submitted by jt2011 on Mon, 05/02/2011 - 23:47

Hi,

ME and my lesbian partner trying to start a family, and we are looking for a sperm donor who can help us to fullfill our dreams.... feel free to respond.........

Submitted by Ben on Mon, 05/09/2011 - 02:28

I'm Ben, I'm 18, healthy, and in central Illinois. I'm 5'7", I weigh 130 lbs.
I have high metabolism and I'm very active. I'm willing to help someone in the area.
The only issue I have is that I'm not ready to be a dad at eighteen years old, so I wouldn't have a role in the child's life.
slavetomyownwill@hotmail.com, if you're interested.

Submitted by Hannah on Thu, 05/26/2011 - 07:37

Hey my names hannah im a 26yr old women looking for a sperm donor in austell ga.im biratial very kind a loving, Im in a lesbian relationship who ive been with for a few years and im looking for a free donor in the area. im only willing for artifitial insem. and shipping please contact me soon at hoffman.hannah@yahoo.com

Submitted by Aloha on Mon, 07/04/2011 - 21:12

Hello,
I am a single man, professional, college educated, 46, very fit and athletic, good looking and interested in being a donor and making someone happy and having children... Contact me.

Submitted by Denequa Rider on Tue, 07/19/2011 - 14:21

My name is Denequa Rider. My lesbian fiancee and I are looking for a sperm donor that can send to Tx...If you can help us out please let me know as soon as possible.

Submitted by Denequa Rider on Tue, 07/19/2011 - 14:27

My lesbian fiancee and I are looking for a sperm donor that is located of will send to Dallas, Tx. We have been searching for someone to help us for 3 years now and whenever we ask someone to do it for us, they say yes then change their ming at the last minute. We have had our hopes up 5 times now so please only if you are really serious about this. We prefer to have someone who does not want to be involved and wont need anything except your donation please and thank you all very much.

Submitted by Nichole on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 14:16

My girlfriend and I am looking for a sperm donor but it is not matter to us if you live in the different states. We are deaf and cannot talking or hear. We are hopefully that some else would doing reduce price instead expensive. I have the hazel, brown hair, white racial, 5"9' tall, and 140 weights. I have some problem with physical healthy because I have the same from both of my parent's side families. I might can get twin kids because it is from my mother's side families and that is why I can get that happen. My girlfriend and I am hopefully that you can emailing and help us out with sperm donor. My email is PrideLesbian1989@gmail.com

It is our first time to doing this and we are actually from Michigan. My girlfriend and I am 22 years old. We have been discussing about that so many time and want to making us to be happy to have a kid that able to cheerful and love to see our kids to go school and play with other kids. We want to have a guy who have a great personality and have a gentle guy.

Submitted by claire on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 05:56

Thank you for writing. If you are looking for a sperm donor, we really advise that you go through a reputable sperm bank that carefully screens and keeps track of donor sperm. Talk to a fertility doctor in your area — you can find one through the Find a Doctor search on each page of FertilityAuthority. These specialists work with reputable sperm banks and can advise you in how to proceed. Good luck!

Submitted by LadyK on Sun, 11/13/2011 - 18:38

Hello,

I am a single mom considering sperm donation. After seeing reports of sperm donors having 150 kids, I worry about my child bumping into a sibling in college and having a Greek tragedy on my hands. Is there any way to avoid this? Thanks for the advice!

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