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Considering Sperm Donation
Deciding whether to use donor sperm can usher in emotional, practical and legal concerns. But it also opens the door to parenthood for thousands of people each year.
If you’re considering donor sperm, either:
- You’ve learned that you or your partner’s sperm is the cause of your infertility, or
- You’re a single woman or in a lesbian partnership and want to become a mom.
If you’re in a heterosexual relationship, you’ll first have to openly address your feelings regarding his infertility. This is hard for many men because in our culture, as in most, manhood is ‘measured’ by one’s virility. Most of us know this isn’t true — that, in fact, a sense of manhood is a mixture of feelings and thoughts set in motion by our culture. It’s what’s inside our heads that counts. Nonetheless, turning to a sperm bank requires couples to address this prickly issue.
When considering donor sperm, couples also must confront the fact that their child will be biologically linked to just one of them. This can arouse feelings of anger and loss. Take time to experience this loss. Grieving takes time.
Questions that couples and singles can explore are:
- Does this feel OK to me? Might adopting be a better alternative?
- How might I/we feel when people say, “S/he doesn’t look at all like you!”
- How will I feel being Mom/Dad to a child who does not have a genetic tie to me?
- What will I/we tell our child? Family and friends? Do we need to tell them?
Those considering the donor route get valuable insights from attending a support group. Talking to an experienced counselor can also help.
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Hello, I would like to know
Hello,
I would like to know the cost for articial insemination for my fiancee and I. We are a lesbian couple that lives in michigan and we been talking about this for four years now. We tired to find friends to donate to us but either they have girlfriends or they want to do it the old fashion way. We would like to be pregnant before we are 30. We are both 27 right now. So i would like to know what steps we need to take so we can have our baby soon.
My partner and I are
My partner and I are looking to see how much it cost for artificail insemination. We have been trying at home but its hard to keep a donor. Most guys are uncomfortable with just helping and not getting to act on it. We are getting older and really want to have a family and give a child an amazing life. We need some help on how to get started and the cost so we can make our family complete. Thank you.
Want to know where locally
Want to know where locally I can donate sperm. my zip code is 64020.
i want to know the cost to
i want to know the cost to use a sperm dona ot the best site to look for one in the uk me and my hubby have been trying 3 years to have a baby and not had much luck so i would love some help as soon a poss to find a good site to look on to help us have a baby thank you x
Hello I am looking for a
Hello I am looking for a sperm donor in Colorado for my wife and I we are a lesbian couple and we have a 7 year old and are ready for another!! Thanks for all and any help!
im 43 and my partner is 31
im 43 and my partner is 31 i have 2 children and my partner is desperate to have a child, ive had a vasectomy 16 yrs ago so that route is a dead end, im happy for her to be fertalized through a sperm bank, im in love with her, and she deserves the chance of being a mum, im just writing to find out the chances and the costs involved, kind regards, geoff
Hi me and my lesbian
Hi me and my lesbian partner would love to have a baby can you send us some more information on how we can achieve this please
Thank You
If you are considering
If you are considering donating sperm, or if you are looking for a sperm donor, it is recommended that you work with a licensed agency that does sperm donation. It is important that the sperm donor's medical history is known, that his sperm samples are screened, and that contracts are in place to outline the terms of the sperm donation. Even if you want to use a known sperm donor - someone you know - it may be recommended that you work together through a reputable organization that facilitates sperm donation. There are a couple of bloggers on FertilityAuthority, who provide good information on all aspects of sperm donation: Michelle Ottey, Director of Operations at Fairfax Cryobank and Cryogenic Laboratories; and Cappy Rothman, Medical Director of California Cryobank.
i am a 27 year old single
i am a 27 year old single female and i would like to have a baby..i have some one in mind that would like to donate his sperm..What do i need to do.
Using someone you know as a
Using someone you know as a sperm donor is called a "directed donor". It's important that you use a sperm bank to help coordinate the sperm donation. The male's sperm should undergo testing, he should have a physical and a blood exam, and a legal contract should be written to outline the terms of the sperm donation. Not all agencies work with directed donors, so you'll have to do a little bit of homework to find one to work with. Fairfax Cryobank and California Cryobank both work with Directed Donors.
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Here are such motivating information and many notes underneath the story, don’t give up
I'm a single mother of a 6
I'm a single mother of a 6 year old boy and I want to have another baby before I turn 30. I would like to know how much does it cost to get articial insemination.
Hi, ME and my lesbian
Hi,
ME and my lesbian partner trying to start a family, and we are looking for a sperm donor who can help us to fullfill our dreams.... feel free to respond.........
My lesbian fiancee and I
My lesbian fiancee and I are looking for a sperm donor that is located of will send to Dallas, Tx. We have been searching for someone to help us for 3 years now and whenever we ask someone to do it for us, they say yes then change their ming at the last minute. We have had our hopes up 5 times now so please only if you are really serious about this. We prefer to have someone who does not want to be involved and wont need anything except your donation please and thank you all very much.
Thank you for writing. If
Thank you for writing. If you are looking for a sperm donor, we really advise that you go through a reputable sperm bank that carefully screens and keeps track of donor sperm. Talk to a fertility doctor in your area — you can find one through the Find a Doctor search on each page of FertilityAuthority. These specialists work with reputable sperm banks and can advise you in how to proceed. Good luck!
Curious about the process
Hello,
I am a single mom considering sperm donation. After seeing reports of sperm donors having 150 kids, I worry about my child bumping into a sibling in college and having a Greek tragedy on my hands. Is there any way to avoid this? Thanks for the advice!
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