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Facebook's New 'I'm Expecting' Option — Proceed with Caution
Here at FertilityAuthority we love Facebook. For many, the social networking site is a way to reach out and find others coping with infertility and share knowledge, emotions, failures and successes. And yes, we admit that it's fascinating to watch friends go from "single" to "in a relationship" to "single" again and share the details of their daily lives.
By now you have probably heard about Facebook's new "I'm Expecting" option, which is creating quite a stir. Facebook has become the place to share your status to a wide network of "friends," and many feel that the news of pregnancy is no different. Under the same section where you can list family members, moms-to-be can add "Expected: Child" to their profiles, as well as the due date and chosen name.
Yes, it's cool that Facebook has become so customizable. But if you are newly pregnant, we advise you to proceed with caution.
Often, when women become pregnant for the first time, they have no concept of what a miracle it really is or that miscarriages occur in 15 to 20 percent or pregnancies.
There is a reason that many women wait to tell others about a pregnancy until they are 12 weeks along — or even later. "With my first first pregnancy — way before Facebook was even invented — I told all my friends and family way too soon with no thought that anything bad could ever happen," says Ann*. "If Facebook had been around, I probably would have checked the expecting option. When I miscarried at 11 weeks, it was devastating. I definitely received a lot of support because so many people knew, but I also had to talk about it with A LOT of people."
Talking about a personal situation over the phone or in person is different than unchecking the "Expected: Child" status on Facebook and then getting the "What happened?!!" queries on your wall. If you are a person who doesn't mind talking about any situation in a public setting, you may be fine. If you are more private, think carefully before you announce it in your status update.
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*Ann has asked that her last name be withheld.