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Naturally Trying to Conceive a Specific Gender
There are a lot of fun old wives tales about how to tell the gender of your baby. If you're carrying down low, you're having a boy. If you're expanding horizontally and getting a few extra visits from the pimple fairy, you're growing a little princess who is gleefully stealing some of your beauty.
There are also countless fun old wives tales about how to naturally conceive a specific gender. Certain sexual positions will give you the results you're looking for. All you have to do is look up the Chinese gender predictor, type in your age and the month you want to conceive in and BAM - answers. Before you do the deed, cross your eyes and sing the lyrics to yellow submarine backwards (okay that's not a real one - stop the eye-crossing). Of course for every wives tale, there are women for whom it is an inarguable truth... Just not for all the women who tried them. So are there natural ways to try and conceive a specific gender that may be more than just fairy tales? Yes.
There are a few things that studies indicate about the differences between girl-sperm and boy-sperm. (The girl sperm carrying the X chromosome, the boy sperm carrying the Y).The boy sperm (Y) tend to be faster. If there was going to be a sprint in perfect conditions, your wallet would do better to bet on the sperm carrying the Y chromosome. That being said, the girl sperm (X) tend to be tougher. If they arrive at their destination and the conditions aren't perfect - they will hang out for awhile and live a little longer. (Isn't that a great analogy for life in general?)
So based on that, the timing of intercourse is considered a possible determining factor in gender. The idea is that if you have sex the day before or the day of ovulation, more than likely you'll conceive a boy. The conditions are better (the egg is there waiting for the sperm) and you're just dealing with a straight forward sprint. On the other hand, if you conceive 3-4 days before ovulation, you may be more likely to conceive a girl. The conditions are less than perfect, they may have to wait a tick for the egg, and the lady sperm have less of a tendency to freak out about a hitch in the road.
Based on those differences between X and Y carrying sperm, there are also a lot of people that believe diet can be a determining factor in what gender you conceive. Mainly it's a diet that can adjust the pH (acidity) in a woman's body. The theory that a more alkaline environment is more likely to attract the y chromosome, and a slightly more acidic environment (less than perfect) is more likely to weed out the Y chromosomes and attract the X.
There have been some pretty compelling studies that support the diet theory. In one study, women trying to conceive were put on a strict diet with a high level of calcium and magnesium, and a low level of sodium, as well as given strict instructions on the timing of intercourse. The diet and timing were designed to increase the chances of having a girl - and of the women who followed it, 81% did conceive a girl.
Suffice it to say, even for a skeptic the overall outcomes for people considering diet and timing in relation to gender is enough to give one pause. If you're a person with a certain level of proven confidence about your fertility and you're looking to conceive one sex over another, it's certainly worth a try. If you're fertile, not in a particular rush and have a preference in whether you have a little boy or a little girl, why not try changing up your diet and the timing of intercourse?
That being said, of course neither one of these methods, even in combination, is 100% fool proof. If you have been trying to conceive for some time without any luck or age is starting to become a factor, it would be ill advised to not have sex on certain
days during your fertile window in hopes of conceiving a specific gender. Absolutely make an appointment with a Fertility Doctor, and if you want to worry about gender do it when you're actively pursuing treatment.
There is only one way to absolutely determine the sex of your baby and that is through IVF with PGD. Your eggs are inseminated in a lab, and the resulting embryos are sent off for pre-genetic testing for various conditions, and as a result you will learn the gender of said embryos.