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Pregnancy News Might Not be Joyful


This week in her Chicago Tribune column "Ask Amy" advice columnist Amy Dickinson was asked how to best share pregnancy news with infertile friends. Her advice follows.

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Dear Amy: My husband and I recently learned so me exciting news: We're expecting another child.

We plan on sharing our news with family and friends in a few weeks but want a low-key manner to notify people, as several close family members and friends have been struggling with infertility themselves.

We're so happy, but we're trying to find a way to be sensitive to those in our lives who will be thrilled for us but possibly disappointed in how things have turned out for themselves.

Any suggestions?

-- Lucky

Dear Lucky: Thank you for being sensitive to the fact that your great news might prompt complicated reactions from other people.

After you tell your folks, next on your list should be the people in your life who might struggle with this. Call them to say, "We wanted to let you know before the word got out that we're expecting another baby."

They will probably react by saying that they are very happy for you.

Then you can respond, "I know you've been struggling with this yourself, but I want you to know that I'm thinking of you and keeping my fingers crossed."

Express optimism for them, and also understand if their reaction to you is understated.


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