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We started our TTC journey in our mid 20s. I was one of “those” who thought it would be easy to get pregnant.

When we went for our fertility work-up, I found out I had high FSH, and my fertility doctor told me I had premature ovarian failure (POF). He also said our only way to have a family was to use donor egg.

It took me over a year, two in vitro fertilizations (IVFs) with my eggs and lots of tears to finally make the decision to move on. In February 2010 we welcomed our son via egg donation. Ant is now the center of our world.

After making the decision to use donor eggs, I realized how important it is for people to understand egg donation. It has become my mission to promote egg donation as a great choice for those who need it.

If you would like to know about my journey through motherhood, you can follow me on my personal blog Donor Diva: Mother via Egg Donation.


a blog by Donor Diva, January 26, 2012

If you have been around the block in your fertility journey, then you are a pro at deflecting unwanted questions. Let me give you the bad news first … THESE QUESTIONS HAVEN’T STOPPED. Even though almost everyone knows of our story, it doesn’t stop the question: “When are you going to have second?”

While in the trenches of infertility, I assumed these questions would stop after our child was born. Now that Ant is almost 2, people are getting more serious about interrogating us on when we are having a second child. These questions can be answered several different ways:

    a blog by Donor Diva, December 22, 2011

    While I was leading an infertility forum, a woman came seeking support. I don’t remember how old her daughter was, but I think she was at least 18 months old at the time. The woman was upset that her fertility doctor wouldn’t let her start Clomid because she was still breastfeeding. As much as I prided myself on being supportive, I found it difficult to support her. She already had one beautiful daughter, why was she so desperate to conceive another? And why didn’t she want to stop breastfeeding?

    Now I find that I can answer both of those questions.

    a blog by Donor Diva, November 11, 2011

    I felt very blessed when it came down to this decision. Living in the Washington, D.C., area gave us many clinic options. At the time I didn’t look at success rates very much; however, money was a big concern. Egg donation is not cheap, and it was going to put a strain on us financially no matter where we went. We opted for a fertility clinic that had a shared risk/shared donor program. This made it a very easy decision for us. If we were going to fork out $$$ then we would at least be guaranteed a healthy baby or our money back.

    To follow are a few things to think about when you are picking a fertility clinic for your egg donation cycle.

    a blog by Donor Diva, October 5, 2011

    To read more Donor Diva: Let's Talk Egg Donation blogs, CLICK HERE.

    Have you heard about this? A sperm donor has helped create AT LEAST 150 children.

    Using an anonymous egg donor has always concerned me a little, but it is reassuring to know that it is more difficult for a woman to donate eggs than for a man to donate sperm. But there is always that concern in the back of your mind — how many half siblings are out there?

    As far as I know, my fertility clinic only lets their egg donors go through three to four cycles. In my case, we did a shared cycle (one egg donor to more than one recipient). If the other recipients were as lucky as me, there could be one, two or more half-siblings out there from that one cycle alone. Also, if the recipients have any frozen embryos, there is the possibility of yet another half-sibling. Where does that leave us?

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    a blog by Donor Diva, September 6, 2011