a blog by Ellen Glazer, July 1, 2013
This is a question I hear often from people thinking about egg donation. They wonder if a child that is not connected to them genetically will truly feel like their baby. Here I’ll try to put this question in context.
Let’s begin by reminding ourselves that all parents have ideas of what their children will be like. Most base these expectations on their own appearance, interests and abilities. Tall parents expect tall children, engineers expect little engineers, women with curls expect babies with curls, and neatness is expected to beget neatness. Rarely, if ever, do parents get the children about whom they fantasize. Almost always, parents come to accept and often celebrate the ways their real children differ from their fantasy children.