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I'm Ellen Glazer and I'm a clinical social worker and writer who has combined my personal and professional experiences to co-author several books on the various issues surrounding fertility struggles.

I graduated from social work school in the early 1970's, encountered infertility in the late 1970's, became a mom in the early 80's (through adoption and birth) and then focussed my practice on infertility, pregnancy loss, adoption, gamete donation, surrogacy and parenting after infertility.

I meet with individuals, couples and groups and do phone consultations and counseling for people who live at a distance. I have also done a good deal of writing and public speaking in the field of infertility. In addition to articles and essays, I have authored or co-authored seven books, most recent being Having Your Baby Through Egg Donation (co-authored with Dr. Evelina Sterling). The second edition of Having Your Baby Through Egg Donation, also co-authored with Dr. Evelina Sterling, is set for release in June 2013 through Jessica Kingsley Publishers in England.

You can find out more about me here.


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a blog by Ellen Glazer, May 29, 2013

Last week I began a series of blogs about the adoption process, acknowledging at the start, that it is incredibly confusing, even for someone like me who has worked in the adoption field for over three decades! Last week I wrote about WHEN people are matched. Now I’ll say a bit about HOW matches occur. Stay tuned in coming weeks for entries about OPENNESS in adoption and one on CONSIDERING ADOPTION IN THE MIDST OF INFERTILITY.

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a blog by Ellen Glazer, August 4, 2011

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I have a client who gets a lot of attention from her fertility doctor. And from his colleagues. And from the doctors she sees for second and third opinions. Everyone is interested in her. Everyone wants to help.

Sound like an enviable position? I know that all too often infertility patients feel that they are “numbers.” A frequent complaint is that “my doctor doesn’t remember me” or “I feel like I’m getting a cookie cutter approach.” It must sound appealing to be the patient everyone knows.

Not so, says my client.


a blog by Ellen Glazer, July 21, 2011

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When I first met Abby and Tom, they were going through in vitro fertilization (IVF). That was about 15 years ago. We met again about eight years later. Or I should say, I bumped into them. They live near me, and we saw each other in CVS. When I spotted them, I wondered if they had ever had or adopted children, but I wasn’t quite sure how to approach the topic — if at all.

Abby made it easy. “We decided not to have children, “ she said. “We’re OK. with it. We’re both liking our jobs, and we recently ran a marathon together.”


a blog by Ellen Glazer, July 14, 2011

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When I first met Jessica, she had just learned that her third in vitro fertilization (IVF) cycle had failed. She was 40 years old, her doctor was pushing “the egg donor conversation” and she was feeling pretty defeated. “I know infertility is hard for anyone going through it but it is especially hard for me,” Jessica said. I had heard that phrase before, but I was surprised by what followed. “I had a baby once. I placed him for adoption when I was 20. I never thought getting pregnant would be a problem.”