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Hi my name is Fran Meadows. I'm an infertility advocate and the author of the book The Truth Behind The Secret "Infertility". Going through infertility I kept my journey silent thinking that I was the only one experiencing this. I was able to release my emotions through my writing. Disappointment after disappointment led us to almost give up, yet we kept up the fight. My first pregnancy through IVF ended in a still birth yet we kept going. Our results were happy in the end; we have a four year old son. I am a proud IVF Mom and wouldn't change my experiences for the world! We reside in Connecticut as a family with my two German Shepherd dogs.

Infertility will always be a part of me that you cannot change that. I lived it, continue to learn from it and know how sensitive the subject can be. Now I work with other women fighting infertility. By providing hope, inspiration, strength, resources and a friend to lean on offering support through online support groups, through my Facebook Page, Twitter Page, as well as email support hoping that sharing my story will help others. On January 26, 2013 I will be co-hosting our first Dreams, Angels and Miracles Expo in New York. It will focus on Infertility and other family building options. I continue to raise awareness throughout the community adding a voice for those that are silent like I was.

My blog From Roller Coaster To Mommy Coaster shares experiences of my everyday life with my son and shares other stories of those that are still trying to build their family through fertility treatments, adoption or surrogacy. You can visit my website for more information on future events and support groups

I'm excited to start a new blogging journey here on Fertility Authority. I will write about things that you can relate too with infertility, sharing knowledge, emotions, with a little twist of humor, hoping to give you a sense of hope through my story. You will feel less alone, confident and empowered to move forward with your journey no matter how you choose to build your family.


a blog by Fran Meadows, February 14, 2013

Most couples that are struggling with infertility know that Valentine’s Day is a day for love and hope that baby dust is in the air. A day to break out your sexiest red lingerie and try to be carefree not thinking about baby making. Well, at least that's what you try to tell yourself; even if it’s for a minute. It's just another day, Valentine’s Day, but we try to embrace it as good things can happen. Some will be embarking on doing injections, an egg retrieval, an embryo transfer, just plain old love making, a BETA (pregnancy hormone hCG) test or just trying to embrace the happy love surrounding them as a couple.

a blog by Fran Meadows, January 21, 2013

January 22, 2006 brings back many raw memories of the loss of my angel baby. The words of my doctor, “There is no heartbeat, I’m sorry you lost the baby." These words haunt me inside. Seven years ago and it’s still deep within my mind holding a heavy heart. This year with the fertility event I have been planning I thought it would keep my mind off things and the days would pass by quickly but instead it is hitting me head on.

a blog by Fran Meadows, January 14, 2013

Let's celebrate becoming a woman, that is what I remember when I was twelve when I got my first period. I was embarrassed, annoyed, moody and trying to wear a pad for the first time without looking like I was exploding like a sponge. Celebrating being a woman at twelve was awkward not knowing that this was a blessing. This was a blessing in disguise. It was the start of a natural menstrual cycle that would someday not show its ugly face and make you a mommy. As a young adult or even a woman in your early 20's your period was the most dreaded thing you can get monthly but you were happy to get it because it was pregnancy prevention time.

a blog by Fran Meadows, December 26, 2012

When you struggle with infertility for a month, a year or many years it is all the same. We go into this world of feelings: How should I feel? Who should I tell? If I’m pregnant who should I tell first? When should I tell the world? Should I keep it a secret? These are just some questions that you might ask yourself. The road of uncertainty is a hard road to travel but when you get to the start of a possible new path to that journey you want to shout it from the rooftops.

In my journey when I received my first BETA test it was the dreaded call, waiting to know what I will hear on the other end. When I got that call and the nurse said on my voice mail, "Congratulations, you're pregnant," I had no idea what to do with myself. I didn't even know how to tell my husband. It's a lot of pressure. You go through so much to get here and then the biggest moment of your life and you have no idea how to handle it. That's okay because the difference is when you're a couple who struggled with infertility, to get to this point is big, and you want to make sure everything will be okay. Unfortunately we cannot predict the future, so it's hard to tell where we might go when we get to this point.

a blog by Fran Meadows, December 14, 2012

Many that go through infertility might not look back at the road they’ve traveled. Some never forget, like me. I find it hard to travel the road of infertility over and over again. Yes, it’s much different when you’re not going through it but you feel the ups and downs with many. The pain you once felt is now affecting someone else and you can’t take it away.


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