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From the Mind-Body Therapist

Helen Adrienne has been a psychotherapist in general private practice since 1979 with a specialty in working with people dealing with infertility. Helen's training in mind/body therapy and clinical hypnotherapy facilitates stress reduction in private sessions and in the mind/body stress reduction classes she runs at NYU Fertility Center. Helen has presented at national and international conferences. Her book, On Fertile Ground: Healing Infertility launched as a #1 best seller on Amazon. Her website contains a wealth of information:

Helen Adrienne, LCSW, BCD
Psychotherapist, Clinical Hypnotherapist,
Practitioner of Mind/Body Therapy
Author: On Fertile Ground: Healing Infertility


a blog by Helen Adrienne, LCSW, October 3, 2013

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There are two considerations that you might find helpful in making the last decision of the infertility saga:

First, some decisions never feel like they are 100% right. A decision that is 51% to 49% is still a decision for one thing and against something else. This could be the case with living child-free. It would be recommended that you honor the 49% or the 30% or even the 1% of you that wants the opposite of your choice and come to terms with it. This may require patience and kindness to yourself and perhaps even seeking out a skilled practitioner whom you can use to facilitate putting the issue in its place. It would be normal to look back years from now and wonder what your life would be like if you had made a different decision.

a blog by Helen Adrienne, LCSW, September 26, 2013

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I have a few concerns for those of you who are considering choosing to live child-free. Do all in your power to make sure that your decision is not contaminated by earlier issues. For instance, if you were burdened with too much responsibility for raising siblings, you might feel that you’ve already been a parent. Or, you might have had inadequate parenting which has left you presuming that you will be inadequate also. If these or other early traumas were worked through, would you still make the choice to live child-free? Just let it be a choice that really represents you.

a blog by Helen Adrienne, LCSW, September 19, 2013

When the hope of a pregnancy runs out, then what? Resolving the infertility crisis demands navigating one dilemma after another. But, the final decision has to do with choosing to live child-free. It is a choice that demands careful scrutiny.

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