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Summer Tips for Infertile Couples

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a blog by Jane Frederick, M.D., HRC Fertility, July 26, 2016

For people struggling with infertility, summer can be a particularly challenging time. Baby reminders are everywhere—at the beach, cookouts, on vacation, family parties, etc. Often there are summer family reunions where relatives often announce new pregnancies and make inquiries into your baby plans. There’s no denying it—summer months can be tricky for couples struggling to have a baby. When most are celebrating longer days and sunshine, it can be a very lonely time for couples wanting to conceive.

To help those dealing with infertility issues during the summer months, below are five key survival tips. A few things to keep in mind: It’s natural to feel sad about not having a baby. Don’t suppress your feelings. And, most importantly, know that there are many effective fertility treatments available to help you realize your family dreams.

That said, below are my summer survival tips:

  1. Prepare responses in advance. Don’t be caught off guard at family gatherings by the “well intentioned” aunt who asks if you have any baby news you’d like to share. A good response is: Not yet, but we’re hoping to expand our family soon. Should she go on about how you shouldn’t wait too long to have a baby, a polite response could be: Some couples face challenges starting a family. Discussion over.
  2. Scale back on parties that make you feel depressed. If someone’s annual summer barbecue is filled with children; don’t go or have a plan to leave early if needed. You don’t have to live up to everyone’s expectations.
  3. A supportive spouse or partner is key. Talk to your partner about your feelings and spend more time doing “couples” things such as going to a nice restaurant or a spa weekend.
  4. Make the summer season a personal renewal. Get ready for fertility treatment by relaxing and recharging emotionally and physically.
  5. Be thankful. If you are at a party feeling anxious, know that most people at the event are also battling some personal war such as loneliness, the loss of a loved one, or unemployment. And be thankful—infertility is very treatable.

If you have been trying to conceive for a long time, take the steps to start building your family today. Set up a consultation with a fertility specialist for an evaluation. Nothing alleviates anxiety like a solid action plan. Also, many people struggling with infertility tend to keep it a secret. There are over 6 million couples in the U.S. dealing with infertility – don’t be afraid to share with close friends as you may find they dealt with infertility or know someone who has. Often the very best advice comes from those who have been down this road. Remember, most fertility issues are very treatable and your baby dreams can and will come true, one way or another.

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