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My wife JK and I went through a 2 1/2-year odyssey of infertility.

To the Wannabe Dads, I promise a road map of everything I ever learned or experienced that can help you survive. I was lucky enough to find friends that helped me cope. Maybe I can do the same for you. I'm desperate to find the male readers, so I may sacrifice myself on the altar of humility from time to time. And hey, I'm a guy! Naturally I'll write something guys understand.

To the Wannabe Moms, I know that learning the male perspective can help you, too! I just happen to speak fluent guy and fluent English.

To all of you, I know that your stories will eventually shape this blog. Please share them.

My wife and I finally reached the other side and welcomed twins, a boy and a girl, in December of 2010. They have an adorable older brother named Luke the Dog — a sweet, over-exuberant, shedding machine.

Desire a little more of Alec's dorky infertility perspective? He chronicles his and JK's infertility story in the blog, I Want to be a Daddy.



a blog by Alec, June 2, 2011

First, a brief announcement:


a blog by Alec, May 26, 2011

Recently, JK showed me Mompetition, which creates hilarious cartoons out of written text. The antagonist is a woman who essentially tries to outdo anything that another does. Your children get organic food? She only feeds them food that she has grown herself. You had three miscarriages? She had 10! You had two in vitro fertilizations (IVFs)? She's had seven, and every morning takes Clomid with a trigger shot chaser!

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a blog by Alec, May 19, 2011

I struggled over what to write this week until a phone call with JK earlier today. She mentioned that she saw another pregnant woman at her office today, and I could hear the vitriol in her voice.

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a blog by Alec, May 12, 2011

Happy Mothers Day to all of the Wannabe Moms who recently made it to the other side. Unfortunately, this story is of a first Mothers Day; wrecked by one, well-placed, insensitive comment.

It's not unusual to find impatient Wannabe Moms and Dads, but when that impatience spreads to the rest of the family, only bad things can happen.

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a blog by Alec, May 5, 2011

Last Thursday, JK and I attended the open house/grand re-opening of the River North location of Fertility Centers of Illinois (FCI). Last year, their site and partner Pulling Down the Moon were devastated when the Chicago River overflowed its banks.

JK and I were treated there by Dr. Sipe, and JK also had a great experience at Pulling Down the Moon. Though we are no longer patients, we will feel forever grateful to both for helping us make it to the other side.