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The Importance of Seeing a Therapist During Infertility
A blog by Lisa Newton, March 10, 2015
When you’re in the middle of infertility, you may feel like your life consists of going from one appointment to another. You have appointments with your reproductive endocrinologist, the laboratory for blood work, pick-ups at the pharmacy, and perhaps a visit with an acupuncturist or nutritionist. It may feel impossible to try to fit in another appointment, but I believe it’s extremely important to make time for visits with a therapist or counselor.
Therapists Help You Sort Out Your Feelings
Infertility can make a mess of your emotions. You might feel anger, sadness, hope, and despair- all in the same day! Add some infertility drugs to the mix and you might feel them all in the same hour! A trained therapist an help you explore your emotions and deal with them in a healthy way.
Therapists Help You See You’re Not Crazy or Weak
One of the hardest things in my own infertility struggle is finding validation for my feelings. I have plenty of support from my husband, my family, and my friends, but I often put a lot of pressure on myself to “feel better,” or feel differently. I tell other people that it’s okay to feel intense emotions, but then I turn around and berate myself for feeling the same way! My therapist has helped me see that my struggles and my feelings are valid. It doesn’t matter if they’re “right” or “wrong” because they are my true experience. We can begin to heal only after we acknowledge and accept our feelings as they are.
Therapists Provide You With a Sounding Board
Sometimes you just need to talk about things. You’ve probably had dozens of conversations about infertility with your spouse or partner. You’ve said everything you could possibly say. But you still feel the need to talk about it. If one person in the relationship starts to get impatient or frustrated with always talking about infertility, a therapist can provide you with the sounding board. Together you can process everything you need to say, share, and think-through, but you’ve given your partner a break.
It may be difficult to find time to visit a therapist, but making it a priority during infertility could mean the difference between just surviving infertility or surviving and becoming a stronger, better person because of it.