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Delivering Hope

Pamela MacPhee graduated from Stanford University in 1986 with a degree in Human Biology. When her cousin’s wife was diagnosed with cervical cancer and subsequent infertility, she wanted to do something to help. After some serious research and internal soul searching, she knew in her heart she wanted to be their surrogate mom. Her offer became extraordinary surrogacy journey which ended 18 months later with the birth of a baby girl, Hope. MacPhee is the author of Delivering Hope: The Extraordinary Journey of a Surrogate Mom, published in 2009.


a blog by Pamela MacPhee, May 30, 2013

I suppose at this point I should expect it. But it doesn’t make me want to stop fighting it.

Some so-called professionals and women’s rights proponents continue over and over again, in the name of preventing state surrogacy legislation to prevail, to claim that surrogacy is the exploitation of poor women. Let’s be transparent here. Surrogacy legislation is designed actually to protect surrogates and Intended Parents to prevent exploitation and disappointment for both parties. I am a real proponent of women’s rights and I believe wholeheartedly in surrogacy.

a blog by Pamela MacPhee, November 9, 2012

Oh gosh, I am tired of people telling me how I’m supposed to feel, and I want prospective Intended Parents to know the truth. So let’s just set the record straight here.

I would like to ask the judges, the attorneys, the self-righteous bloggers and commentators who seem to somehow know how surrogates feel, to please actually ask a surrogate how she feels carrying a baby for someone else, before you choose to make an uneducated judgment. Over the last couple of months I have read others comment on how emotionally fraught it is to ask a surrogate to give up the baby she is carrying.

a blog by Pamela MacPhee, June 11, 2012

There are so many expectations and anxieties in any delivery room, but the anticipation of a surrogacy delivery can be especially anxious. Because so much is emotionally invested in a surrogacy journey, the desire for everything to go perfectly can be a bit overwhelming. And then, of course, is the tiny awkward detail of juggling two couples in the delivery room, in addition to the doctors and nurses that are there (four in our case).

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