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What IF? Hard Questions About Infertility

Writer and infertility survivor, Rachel Gurevich has been writing about women’s health issues for almost ten years. She is the Guide to Fertility, and the author of two books on doulas, including The Doula Advantage (Three Rivers Press, 2003). You can read more about her writing career at her personal website,

Rachel’s experience with infertility started two years after the birth of her second son. Eager to have more children, Rachel and her husband conceived, and lost, three times in a row due to early miscarriage. Then, she stopped ovulating – just because, apparently. She received a diagnosis of PCOS, and was told she would most likely never conceive again without medical help.

Seven years after starting her personal journey with infertility, Rachel gave birth to twins in January 2010, conceived with the help of injectable fertility drugs, yoga, and lots of hope. While technically on the other side of IF, Rachel still feels like part of the infertility community and thinks hard about the life and struggles of those with IF.

This blog’s focus is on those big questions and issues that those either living with IF, or living after IF, think about most.



a blog by Rachel Gurevich, April 27, 2011

If I could pick one infertility myth that grates on every nerve of my body, one myth that I would eradicate if I had the power, it would be the myth that there is a particular program, book, drug, herb or diet that can cure infertility.

Let me tell you something: There is no one “cure” for infertility. There is no “program” or schedule or diet that will cure every person’s infertility. It is a lie.

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by Rachel Gurevich, March 17, 2011

March is National Endometriosis Awareness Month, and I’m thinking about all those women who live with endometriosis every day. My heart today, however, is especially focused on those women who have endometriosis, but don’t know it yet. Could that woman be you?

According to, a survey in 2005 found that it takes an average of eight years for a woman to get a diagnosis of endometriosis. Eight years! Of these women, 65 percent get a misdiagnosis first, and up to 50 percent of women need to see five or more medical professionals before they get the care they need.

That is just … crazy!

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by Rachel Gurevich, June 29, 2010

You may have read or heard the news about a 66 year old woman who gave birth to triplets in India. The new mother has never had a child before, and was eager to become a mother.

Meanwhile, Rajo Devi Lohan, the oldest woman to ever give birth, is dying at age 70, just 18 months after having her daughter. The news story said she is dying of complications from her IVF pregnancy, which she has been unable to overcome.

These stories together have my heart and mind churning over when is it too old to have a baby.

And I don’t mean when is it too old for IVF to be successful, or how old can you get pregnant without fertility treatments. I mean simply when -- ethically and morally -- should pregnancy be considered no longer an option.

I’ll be honest with you and say I’m not sure what I believe on this issue. In fact, I’m confused. I argue with myself.