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What I Wouldn't Change About My Infertility Journey

A blog by Ryanne, February 20, 2015

We talk a lot about infertility and how hard it is, mostly in an effort to get it off our chests or to help people understand what we go through. And that's okay! It's healthy, in fact. But even so, I think it's also healthy to talk about the ways that it has helped us grow. I touched on it a little bit in my previous post, but today I want to talk about a few things that I wouldn't change about the last few years.

I know one person in real life who has really struggled to get pregnant. She went through IUI, then IVF for not one year, but five--and then had a miscarriage before finally having her baby girl. I had other friends that it didn't happen quickly for, or that had experienced loss that I could relate to. But by and large, I felt really alone as time went on and I became the only one I knew that was still trying to get pregnant. I started going on forums and following bloggers, and I discovered a community that I am proud to be a part of. There is so much love and support in this community--it has really been invaluable to me as time has gone on! And I am so glad that I have been able to give back and support others as I have been supported!

{Evolving Faith}
Infertility has challenged my faith and beliefs in a lot of ways. It caused me to start questioning, which has opened the gates to other, unrelated questions. I've been given the opportunity for a lot of soul-searching and spiritual growth and change that I maybe wouldn't have had otherwise!

I know so much more about my body and my health than I did three years ago! I had no idea about ovulation or what a healthy cycle looked like, or any of that! I love the understanding that I have of my body now, and that I can really appreciate the hard work it does! For all the frustration I've had with infertility, my body does a heck of a lot exactly right and that's pretty amazing! I'm also more aware of how important it is to take care of my body and to keep it running the right way.

{Love & Marriage}
I am so thankful for the relationship I have with my husband! He truly is my rock and is going to make an awesome dad someday! In the last year or so, he has really been more active in this journey (asking questions, showing interest beyond when the "baby makin' days" are, making decisions with our family in mind...) and that has been so reassuring to me! I never doubted that he wanted kids but to see him be so invested in this takes it to a whole new level! I'm also never going to regret our amazing five year anniversary trip!

I believe without a doubt that this journey will make me a better parent than I would have been otherwise. Not to say that I would have been a bad parent, but I will absolutely be more mindful, intentional and appreciative of my family!

How have you grown in this journey? I'd love to hear your thoughts!

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