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National Infertility Awareness Week | You Are Not Alone
A blog by Ryanne, April 22, 2015
This week is National Infertility Awareness Week, and the message this year is this: You Are Not Alone. My purpose is writing is so that those who read my words know that I get it. My situation might be not identical to yours, but I understand the pain, frustration, longing, and desperation to fix it. I've been there. Done that. A lot.
There's a lot of drama in infertility. We anxiously await test results, and fight through the two week wait. The hormones wreak havoc on our emotions and relationships. There are the baby showers, pregnancy announcements, and "bumpdates" that make our hearts ache. Then there are the appointments, the schedule rearranging, the shots, and the pills. Sometimes we run nonstop, and feel like we're the only people in the world trying to balance ART and life.
But then, there are moments of stillness. Moments of waiting, when we have no choice but to just be. Can I be honest? Those times are far harder for me than all the drama. The stillness is what's really hard. Time goes more slowly, you start to feel more helpless because you can't do anything. You feel the absence of your hoped-for little ones more acutely, because you have time to feel it and aren't distracted by an IVF or IUI timeline. It's at these times when life feels like it is completely on hold. And it's at those times when I feel the most lonely.
I'm here to tell you today that you aren't alone in the stillness, just like you aren't alone when things get busy and hectic with appointments, or when you feel totally crazy from the hormones. As sad as it is, you're in good company.
I speak for the infertility community when I say this: Reach out. You can find us here, on social media, via email. We're just a message away, so if you have questions or need to talk, let us know. We write to reach out. We want to connect.
Don't ever forget: You are never alone in this.