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Infertility is Where it’s at!

a blog by Beckie D., July 24, 2013

When I was 18 I was diagnosed with PCOS, the doctor told me I would never have children. The diagnosis sat heavy in the back of my mind for years. When I was dating my now husband I was afraid to tell him I had PCOS. I was ashamed and was afraid that he wouldn't want to marry someone who possibly would not be able to give him a family.

Fast forward a few years, we are married and officially trying. My heart swelled with the possibility of a baby in my arms. It didn’t take long before trying for a baby wasn't a fun Friday night! 2 IVF's (in vitro fertilization), 1 FET (frozen embryo transfer) and numerous tests later we learned that PCOS was the least of our worries. We were diagnosed with severe male factor, immune issues (DQ alpha match and high NK cells). It's hard to hear a doctor say that your body isn't baby friendly.

Throughout this process at times I could barely drag myself out of bed, blogging became my outlet to share my feelings, something that my family or friends couldn't understand. I blog very honestly about how I have dealt with infertility.

One lesson I have learned over and over is that life is uncertain, at times cruel and guarantees you nothing. This has propelled me to find the positive in any situation (I swear, there is always something). I try to recognize all the good things around me despite how angry and confused I often feel.

In closing I have a paragraph from a book that has always encouraged me, I hope it does the same for you!

In the darkest moments of your infertility, you must always remember you will emerge a winner in this game. Take charge. Being infertile doesn't mean you can't be a parent. If you want a baby, you will find a way to bring one to your family. Keep thinking of this ordeal as a game – one you will win, just maybe not the way you had always planned. Keep your heart and your mind open and the family you so desire will be yours. We promise.
A Few Good Eggs – Julie Vargo and Maureen Regan

I on!

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