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Fertility and the Importance of Being Present
a blog by Beth and Tami of Pulling Down the Moon
Today we’re going to learn a series of yoga poses that will help increase blood flow into our pelvis, relieve tension in our low backs and hamstrings and help to relax our body and mind. But before we jump in and start exploring yoga for fertility, let’s just sit quietly for a second. Okay, sit up straight, put both feet on the floor and close your eyes. Breathe. Relax. Let your mind become still and the breath become quiet. Just sit.
Okay, stop. Let’s take a quick poll. How many of you actually sat quietly before reading on ahead (really, we want to know so send us a comment!)? If it were me, I would likely have forged ahead to get to the “meat,” to know where I am going and to learn what benefits I should expect from the practice. There’s a reason I ask, though. In yoga, part of the process is letting go of expectations and allowing ourselves to be fully present in each arising moment. Why? Because it’s only in the present moment that something new can arise. Everything but the present is ruled by either memory of the past or imagination of the future.
This is a very important point for those of us who are trying to conceive. That journey can be so encumbered by past disappointments and future fears and hopes that the present is almost completely obscured. Together, though, with the help of breath and movement and the wonderful teaching of yoga we can start to carve out a moment of “now” in which peace can arise and deep healing can occur.
So perhaps we’ll wait until next week to start the yoga postures. For today, let’s try again to sit in the now. Don’t freak out if you feel like your mind is a Niagara Falls of emotions and thoughts. This is NOT failure, it’s success! You have become aware of your mind. In the weeks to come this awareness will grow and mature until you learn that you are actually a peaceful, content being experiencing a roller-coaster ride of experiences.
Here’s a very simple technique for staying present
(it’s okay to read ahead this time so you know what to do):
Sit quietly, either in a comfortable cross-legged position or in a chair with your feet flat on the floor and your spine straight. Close your eyes and place one hand on your lower abdomen. Inhale deeply through the nose and feel the breath move down into the belly, expanding and moving the hand outward as if you’re filling up a balloon in your tummy. Exhale through the nose, feel the belly begin to deflate as you softly count the number “10.” Inhale again, and with the exhale softly say to yourself “9.” Inhale, exhale 8…and so on down to “1.” As you count down from 10 to 1, feel as if you are consciously unwinding the forward momentum of your mind. Feel as if you are a car exiting the highway and slowing down to a country road where you have time to look at the beautiful scenery and be present.
Once you begin to practice this technique daily you may find that after you’ve counted down your ten breaths you’re happy to sit a bit in peace. Enjoy! That’s the present moment.
Next time, we promise a yoga practice. Be present, be positive!