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Finding a Fertility Buddy
a blog by Beth and Tami of Pulling Down the Moon
So after the last couple posts I wanted to round back to the idea of fertility yoga since it may have seemed like I was dissing it. Let me be clear. I absolutely wasn’t. Fertility yoga is very, very special. But the whole point of the last few posts was to give you absolutely no excuse to not start yoga! Now let’s hone in on the fertility thing.
So what makes fertility yoga special? Well, from the perspective of the Moon, it’s the intention of the class that makes it unique. We take the techniques of yoga: poses, breathing exercises, meditation and rituals, and use them in a specific way to support a woman’s fertility journey. But the secret sauce (we call it the “sacred sauce”) is actually the energy of the group.
The yoga teachings provide the framework for the healing and self-discovery, our teacher provides the guidance, but the women provide the healing.
We see it all the time in class. A couple of women who would never have DARED speak to each other in the waiting room before their baseline ultrasounds come to yoga class and realize they both worked at Anderson Consulting in the 90’s. Soon they’re fast friends, having their own GNOs and sharing the ups and downs of IVF.
I was lucky enough to have a fertility buddy. Our husbands were old friends and as other couples started reproducing like bunnies we finally confided in each other our “secret.” I remember celebrating one particularly bittersweet Mother’s Day by drinking wine and eating sushi with my buddy – pleasures our pregnant friends could no longer enjoy – after a BFN. I brought over the eight-hour A&E version of Pride and Prejudice to watch with her during her bed rest. I got pregnant first … but she got twins a few months later. I don’t know how I would have done it without her.
The fertility journey is such a private issue that it’s hard to let people in; but it is our belief at Pulling Down the Moon that doing so brings many gifts.
Please think about becoming a beacon in your community. Start a fertility book club, strike up a conversation in the waiting room, be open to giving and receiving support.
And let us know if we can help!
Be Present, Be Positive,