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Does Your TTC "To Do" List Dictate Your Life?


a blog by Beth and Tami of Pulling Down the Moon

Many spiritual teachers espouse the idea of “being fully present" or "in the ‘Now.’” My guru always says, “Learn to be a human being, not a human doing.” These seem like wise words from a wise man in a time when our lives are mostly dictated by “to do lists.”

Our TTC “to do” list is probably no different. In between measuring basal body temperatures, visiting the fertility doc and googling for the latest advances in assisted reproductive technology, we begin to lose sight of other aspects of our life. I once had a student who said that trying to get pregnant had become a full-time job for her.

We become all consumed by our external distractions and forget to tap into the internal peace that can and does exist within all of us. When was the last time you sat in complete silence without any distractions like the TV, computer or even a book?

By stopping your life in its tracks at least once daily, you will begin to experience this “being-ness” the guru’s praise. Try this meditation practice for five minutes each day for one week and see if you can change the paradigm from doing into being:

    Sit in a chair or on the floor in a comfortable, cross-legged position. Keep your spine nice and straight. Close your eyes and take a deep breath in for seven, slow counts. Now exhale and breathe out for seven counts. Simply focus your attention on the sound of your breathe.

    When the mind starts to wander and your “to do list” pops up, turn your attention back to your breath and say the mantra “Neti, neti, neti.” This means, “I am not this thought, I am not that thought, I am not thought.”

Enjoy nothingness and let us know how you feel after a few days of this simple practice.

Be present, be positive, just be,
Tami Quinn

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