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Featured Fertility Blog: 999 Reasons to Laugh at Infertility
March 26, 2010
We sat down with Naomi to find out what drives her to laugh in the face of infertility. Here's what we found out: She's someone who always sees a silver lining . . .
What do you hope to accomplish with your blog?
When I first created my blog, I was doing it to help myself have a more positive perspective regarding my own infertility. As my readership grew, I was really excited to learn that I was actually helping other women along the way. Readers told me that my blog helped them feel less alone. Some told me it was the first time they laughed during their entire infertility process!
In a way, I feel lucky that I experienced infertility because it allowed me to be a more sensitive and strong person who can help others feel less alone.
Can you tell us the story behind your blog’s name?
I had been trying to conceive for a couple of years without any luck and I became tired of feeling sorry for myself. Each month, I would feel so disappointed and upset every time my period arrived, and would spend many hours crying and feeling depressed. Then, I had my "aha" moment (as Oprah would say) where I just didn't want to cry about it anymore.
I decided that it would the last time I ever cried about infertility and that's when I started blogging. I wanted to change my perspective and try to see the humor in my situation. We girls do a lot of crazy things in order to get pregnant and blogging about it made others aware that they weren't alone in their journeys. It feels really great to smile about my situation rather than cry. (Of course, I have cried about it since but now I'm only allowed to feel depressed for a few minutes instead of a few hours.)
How do you get around getting blogger’s block?
Surprisingly, I don't get blogger's block. The purpose of my blog is to write 999 reasons why infertility is funny which does not seem like an easy task. But once I started writing, the blog posts come easily to me. I'm struck by humorous infertile moments daily, from doing a full head stand after baby-making sex to trying out any and every different fertility product to help me conceive. It's also pretty easy to get material when your husband goes for multiple semen analyses and sometimes misses the cup. Oops. Too much information?
Once I actually get started writing, my posts come easily.
What’s your favorite post that you’ve written and why?
I love to blog because it allows me to be creative and inspired! I particularly like "Reason #904, IVF The Cookbook," in which I cooked up an egg recipe tastes great and feels fantastic! I also liked writing "Reason #922, The Real Ways to Enhance your Fertility" because I grew tired of people telling me to 'just relax and it will happen.' Well, guess what? We relaxed and it didn't just happen!
Have you ever had commenters who were unkind or hurtful? How do you handle it?
For the most part, people have responded really well to my crazy blog. Infertility is a serious issue and I'm essentially making fun of it and asking people to laugh about the one thing that is hurting them the most. I've only had a couple of people who commented that my blog was outrageous and were appalled how anyone could laugh at infertility.
I don't take these comments personally as I know these readers are going through a difficult time. I always listen to everyone's comments, both positive and negative, and then I try to change their perspective. It's not about laughing at infertility, it's really about learning to live your life in a positive way.
I truly believe that humor is a great coping mechanism for daily life and happiness is always a choice. Infertility rocks! (Are you laughing?)