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Profound Words from Movie Star Elizabeth Banks
a blog by Claire, May 17, 2012
Elizabeth Banks, the 37-year-old star of "The Hunger Games" and "What to Expect when You're Expecting" has been talking to the media recently about her infertility and having her son via gestational carrier. The actress, who also has a recurring role in 30 Rock, has a son, Felix, who was born in March 2011.
In recounting friends' advice while she was battling infertility, Banks said something very profound:
"When I was going through my battle with infertility, I got wonderful advice, which was, 'Why are you so worried about the pregnancy? Just get the baby whatever way you can get your baby.'
"Pregnant women would say, 'Yeah, pregnancy is really great and lovely, but then you go to the hospital and they give you your baby and you have to mother it.' That's the part that's important, mothering the baby …"
Yes, parenting is the part that really matters. No matter how you get your baby — in vitro fertilization, egg donation, sperm donation, embryo donation, gestational surrogacy, adoption — you are going to face the same parenting issues as the couple who got pregnant the first time they tried. From when to start solid food to when to start kindergarten to where to go to college — this is the part that really matters. The nine months of pregnancy pales in comparison.
Thank you, Elizabeth Banks, for reminding us of that.