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I Look Pretty Good In Scrubs

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a blog by David Kreiner, M.D., F.A.C.O.G., East Coast Fertility, July 13, 2010

A husband's experience when going through an IVF cycle depends in large part on how involved he gets. When you participate actively with the in vitro fertilization process, it helps to relieve much of the stress on the wife and on the relationship. The more involved you are, the more invested you will feel in the entire experience, and the more in control you will feel over the outcome.

Many husbands who participate in the IVF process pride themselves on their newfound skills of mixing medications and administering injections for their wives. When IVF is successful, you've played a very active role in that success, and you will relate better to the experience, your wife and the resulting baby.

Despite a lack of prior experience, most people can learn to prepare and administer the medication. Whether it is the feeling of “playing doctor” or the knowledge that they are contributing significantly in the process and supporting their wives, most men say that giving their wives the injections was a positive experience for them and for their relationship.

Along the same line of thinking, accompanying your wife at the time of embryo transfer can be very rewarding. The procedure can be highly emotional — your embryo is being placed in her womb and in that moment, many women feel as if they are pregnant. Life may be starting here, and it is wonderful to share this moment with your wife. You may even choose to keep the Petri dish as a keepsake as the “baby’s first crib.” It’s an experience a husband and wife are not likely to forget as their first time together as a family.

I strongly recommend that men don those scrubs, hats and booties and join their wives or partners as the physician transfers the embryos from the dish into her womb. Nine months later, do the same at delivery, and you will have memories that last a lifetime.

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