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The Canadian Court Ruling for Children of Anonymous Sperm, Egg and Embryo Donors
a blog by Donor Diva, May 31, 2011
I recently read several articles about a British Columbia Judge ruling in favor of the offspring of anonymous sperm donation, egg donation and embryo donation being able to find out about their biological parents. My initial reaction was negative, but after some thought I realized this may be a good thing (in some ways).
In case you don’t know, our son Ant is the product of anonymous egg donation. In a later blog I will tell you about why we decided on anonymous donation.
The reason I initially had such a negative reaction was my basic mother’s instincts to protect my son (or maybe to just hold him close and keep him near me.) Sometimes it is hard to come to terms with the fact that it took three people to conceive Ant, and one of my biggest fears is he might choose our egg donor over me if she were somehow in the picture. I know it is a silly fear, but sometimes it’s hard to shake.
One major implication of this ruling is that it will be harder to find an egg donor in British Columbia. You are not allowed to compensate donors in Canada, so this already makes the pool of possible egg donors smaller. If you take away their anonymity, some women are even less likely to donate.
However, there are several positives for all people who have used anonymous donation, but may want to know more about their donors. This ruling will make it easier to get medical information. It also makes it easier for donor children to find their half-siblings. For example, I know our egg donor had a son of her own, and I know she donated eggs to three couples, including us. As much as it may exacerbate my fears, I really do believe our kids have a right to know where they come from.