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The Canadian Court Ruling for Children of Anonymous Sperm, Egg and Embryo Donors


a blog by Donor Diva, May 31, 2011

I recently read several articles about a British Columbia Judge ruling in favor of the offspring of anonymous sperm donation, egg donation and embryo donation being able to find out about their biological parents. My initial reaction was negative, but after some thought I realized this may be a good thing (in some ways).

In case you don’t know, our son Ant is the product of anonymous egg donation. In a later blog I will tell you about why we decided on anonymous donation.

The reason I initially had such a negative reaction was my basic mother’s instincts to protect my son (or maybe to just hold him close and keep him near me.) Sometimes it is hard to come to terms with the fact that it took three people to conceive Ant, and one of my biggest fears is he might choose our egg donor over me if she were somehow in the picture. I know it is a silly fear, but sometimes it’s hard to shake.

One major implication of this ruling is that it will be harder to find an egg donor in British Columbia. You are not allowed to compensate donors in Canada, so this already makes the pool of possible egg donors smaller. If you take away their anonymity, some women are even less likely to donate.

However, there are several positives for all people who have used anonymous donation, but may want to know more about their donors. This ruling will make it easier to get medical information. It also makes it easier for donor children to find their half-siblings. For example, I know our egg donor had a son of her own, and I know she donated eggs to three couples, including us. As much as it may exacerbate my fears, I really do believe our kids have a right to know where they come from.

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Comments (4)

I would like to know why you chose the name Donor Diva. You are not the donor, you are the recipient, so I feel that the name is misleading. Also, the word Diva generally has negative connotations – it means demanding and difficult and bitchy. I think you should strongly consider another name for yourself and your blog.

Though "Donor Diva" is the recipient rather than the donor, she makes no secret of the fact that she is such. If you follow her blog there should be no confusion.
The dictionary definition of "diva" is "a highly distinguished female singer." Yes, in this modern day it is used to describe a female who is highly distinguished in their field of choosing, often in fashion, but certainly not any of your choice words.
This blog brings postive guidance and reassurance into the lives of its readers. Donor Diva takes the time and effort to share her most personal feelings on the subject in hopes of helping other families considering or using donor eggs.
I feel that your comment was highly uncalled for and I think you should strongly consider another blog to read.

Donor Diva....I am so enjoying your recent blogs, you are offering such a wonderfully refreshing and uplifting voice to the recipient parent community, thank you for all that you are contributing!

I have been paying very close attention to the ruling, particularly to the media spin and have been strong in my message to American recipient parents, prospective recipients as well as donors that this ruling has no impact on donations in the states. While much of the sentiment you expressed (and, of course, we all agree with) regarding disclosure to donor conceived children and their having access to medical and genetic history is so very compelling, donors here in the states need to hear that their anonymity, at this time, is protected (particularly those who have signed direct contracts with their recipients) and that even following this British Columbia ruling, Canadian donors will only have their identity revealed if they have or will agree to consent to that level of disclosure. The ruling is actually a bit more balanced that the media and other commentary has led the public to believe and is limited, obviously, to B.C.

Keep blogging're doing a great job!!!

Best, Amy

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