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TTC after Successful Fertility Treatments
a blog by Donor Diva, July 21, 2011
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Right after Ant was born was when I had the strongest desire to have another child. I am going to chalk that up to hormones (and thinking maybe he was our only child.) After we paid our first storage fee on our frozen embryo (‘totsicle’) I knew I wasn’t yet ready to have another.
Over the last year I have thought about our next step. Do we want to do another cycle with an egg donor? Do we want to do a traditional surrogacy with my sister? Do we want to just try on our own again? Do we want to adopt?
After over a year asking myself these questions I feel like I have finally settled on an answer.
Here is our plan of attack:
- Change our diet. My husband and I have been doing a lot of reading on eating and how it can affect the body. I also have come across information about how nutrition can help your fertility (especially premature ovarian failure). This gives me hope of conceiving with my own eggs (I guess I am not giving up on them completely). Our current goal is to become vegans. I am hoping by the end of the summer to be there.
- Continue trying on our own for the next year or two. I can’t believe I agreed to this. Old me would be saying “now now now!” I want to give my body the chance I couldn’t give it the first time.
- If after one to two years of TTC on our own doesn’t work, then we will try transferring the little totsicle. I think I will finally be ready.
- If nothing else works, then I think we are just going to be happy with Ant. We have briefly discussed the possibility of adoption or being foster parents, but that is a long way down the road.
I think the main reason I am hesitant to do another cycle with a new egg donor or adopt is because of the cost. The money we would pay for another cycle or an adoption could be Ant’s college fund. I would feel we were taking away from him if we did the selfish thing to try to have another child one of these ways. Although, to my surprise, I am considering foster/adopting through the foster care system. After seeing a successful foster care adoption, it opens my eyes to what a wonderful gift it could be.