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Here Comes Father's Day — Part III
a blog by Ellen Glazer, June 2, 2011
I will always remember the first couple I knew who became parents through in vitro fertilization (IVF). I was very excited by their news and eager to celebrate with them. Hence, I remember being quite taken aback when they said to me, “We love our baby, but we are very sad at all the time we lost trying to have him. We look back on our 30s, and they are a blur.”
And so this is my third Father’s Day message to you: “Don’t let time slip by.”
There will be future June Sundays when you do “the Father’s Day thing.” As this Father’s Day approaches, think about ways that you can enjoy the day, whether by celebrating it with the fathers in your lives or by creating a cherished memory for you as a couple. Either way, I think your goal for this Father’s Day (and every day, if you can) should be to avoid having it become a blur — or worse still, a bad memory. Everyone is different, so I don’t know what you will want to do, but here are some thoughts ...
- A random — or not so random — act of kindness.
- Take a canoe or kayak out.
- Take a drive in which you explore new places.
- Take a drive where you revisit favorite places.
- Do something you never allow yourselves to do, such as eating a large fries followed by a giant ice cream sundae or “blowing” a few hundred dollars to go see your favorite baseball team play.
The list could go on and on but I think you get the point: It’s about creating memories. Do your best to avoid the natural inclination to “duck and cover," the “let’s go hide in a hole until it is over” approach to Father’s Day. Instead, try — as a couple — to think of something you would truly LIKE to do on Father’s Day.
Be creative, proactive and optimistic as you plan your day. Picture yourself in the future looking back on this Father’s Day and think, “What would make for a really nice memory?”