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The Pain of Infertility on Mother's Day
a blog by Fran Meadows, May 10, 2013
For those who are still trying to build their families, Mother's Day is not just for mothers. It's for the mother-to-be and for those still trying to build their families through fertility treatments, adoption, surrogacy, or other family building options. YOU ARE SPECIAL TOO! Think of it as a day to honor special women, which you all are. Make it a day all about you!
It's not an easy day. I know. I was once there dreading this day to come. Today, I am a mom- an "IVF Mom"- who never forgets the road traveled or the pain my husband and I endured to bring my son into this world. Infertility is something that you never forget - it is who you are, where you've been and where your going!
I know you want to celebrate the day with all your moms or reflect on the moms that have passed, but something else inside leaves you thinking when will it be your turn? It's upsetting and hard to keep a happy face on without the tears rolling down your eyes. It's bad enough that you see every Mother's Day commercial for flowers and chocolates, and babies are everywhere. It is something you try to block out, like I did. Maybe you should envision, on this day, happy thoughts for the future to help you get through the day.
Honoring those women who continue to have hope and dreams of motherhood or should I say those women who are injecting, being poked and prodded with hormones racing as we speak. Read some quotes from others still traveling down the road of infertility. Baby dust to all!
"This day can feel like your getting salt rubbed into your wounds."
"I don't show my emotions and sadness of not yet being a mum, I treasure my mum every day not just on Mother's Day. I leave the heartache for my own thoughts at night time."
"It hurts more, especially when you've just had a BFN and you're uber sensitive"
"I've actually never seen it that way.. I just think of my mum and nothing else. doesn't matter if I can't be one. I keep telling myself, one day I will, just not now!"
"We are all special and motherhood should be a natural thing, but when you have to turn to other medical alternatives - DON"T JUDGE!"
"Silence will whisper the thoughts that I feel on this day."
"My smile on the outside shows my pain on the inside for Mother's Day as every year passes me by!"