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Finding Hope in the Holidays
a blog by Melinda Davis, December 21, 2011
The holidays can be tough for anyone struggling with infertility, so I wanted to offer a post of hope to those having a hard time right now. No matter where you’ve been, or what’s come along your path, now is the time to release it all.
Strength — This past year has brought growth to your life and made you stronger for the experiences that have come along the way. Whether you received your infertility diagnosis, went through fertility treatments, began exploring or entering the adoption process, or have taken a break from it all to reevaluate your situation, you have grown through each step and should be proud of how far you’ve come. If you look back at it all, I bet you have learned something new this year or have seen something in a new way. These experiences have not defeated you but have made you stronger, brought you insight and can help guide you as you make decisions for your future.
Thanksgiving — No matter how grim things may look, I bet you can look around and see many blessings in your life. I know it is much easier to look at what we’re missing rather than what we have, but it’s so important to focus on the many blessings we currently have in our life and enjoy them as we wait and hope for the future. Just because our life may not be where we had envisioned it does not mean we should lose all hope and praise. Make a list of the things you are thankful for, no matter how big or small they may be, and keep that list close, so when things seem tough, you can be reminded of the joy that’s currently in your life.
Reconciliation — Infertility can take a lot out of relationships. It is such an emotional and personal battle that feelings, marriages and friendships can be wounded in its path. If this has happened to you, take a moment to reconnect with those you love. Let them know you want a fresh start and seek reconciliation.
Miracles — Miracles do happen, but we have to open our eyes, ears and hearts to them. They may not always be the miracle we want or think we deserve, but if we keep an open mind we may just find a miracle we weren’t expecting.
Beginnings — With the holidays come new beginnings. Whatever negative things have happened this past year, you can leave them behind as a memory of what you’ve survived and allow them to serve as a reminder of how much you’ve grown. This is the time to embrace the New Year and give yourself a fresh start and outlook. Take this time to concentrate on the good things that come along and to make the most of each day finding something to be thankful for.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.” Philippians 4:8