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Isn’t It Ironic?


a blog by Infertile Naomi, August 17, 2010

Don’t you think? Yes. I really do think.

This week in celebrity fertility news, Alanis Morissette tells US Magazine that her pregnancy with husband Mario "Souleye" Treadway was a complete surprise. "The pregnancy wasn’t planned at all,” she told the magazine excitedly. “It was a wonderful surprise.”

Similarly, Melissa Rycroft from The Bachelor and Dancing with the Stars, had baby news. “It’s been a busy year for us, a wedding and a baby!” A glowing Rycroft told US Magazine.“The pregnancy was a complete shock to us. We weren't even trying.”

I’ll pause for a moment so the pregnancy-challenged woman can finish rolling their eyes.

She wasn’t even trying? How is that even possible? Those of us living in the infertility world heavily dislike the terms “surprise pregnancies.” For us, a surprise pregnancy would mean trying for one year, visiting a fertility doctor and then, finally, getting pregnant after multiple fertility treatments. The only surprise would be “Surprise! It’s not a Big Fat Negative this time!” As women wanting a child, we don’t have that luxury of an accidental pregnancy, and we are always consumed by thoughts of mommyhood and babies.

There are a lot of celebrities who claimed their pregnancies were a complete accident. Bristol Palin and ex-fiancé Levi Johnston had a surprise teenage pregnancy, and “Oops I did it again” Jamie Lynn Spears became a teenage mom at age 16.

News flash for teenagers: If you don’t use protection, you can get pregnant.

19 and Counting TLC reality stars, Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar, probably weren’t that shocked when baby number 19 came along. They have been recently quoted in People Magazine saying “We’re open to having a 20th child.” Really Michelle Duggar? Please don’t. Seriously, that woman could just cough and get pregnant.

But for Alanis Morissette and Melissa Rycroft, having a “surprise” baby is actually nice news. We are completely envious and wish we could have a surprise baby ourselves. But as Alanis sings in her ironic song: It's meeting the man of my dreams, and then meeting his beautiful wife.

Or, in our case, it’s like meeting the man of my dreams, and then realizing that he has azoospermia. Isn’t it ironic...don't you think?

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Comments (9)

Thanks for the laugh! Does no one know how babies are made? I mean I know there are those that miss one pill and get pregnant, but come on! Even when I hear that story, I find it hard to believe! I agree. It's being played up for hollywood! :)

With these celeb surprise baby announcements, I wonder how much is true and how much is to play up the magic of Hollywood. Sure, I say good for them (except the Duggars. Seriously. Stop!) but these announcements should come with a warning sign like movies do, so we know to turn away from the magazine stands.

In many ways, I think it's human nature to base these decisions first on what we can see, and then on the traits that may or may not be moldable. It’s not a matter of vanity or an attempt to create a physically superior child; instead, it’s a way of bringing a child into this world who physically carries some of the features you always pictured your babies-to-be would have.memory foam pillow

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