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Easy Fertility? Not Our Style
a blog by Alec, August 2, 2011
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In my life, it seems that there have been difficult passages. I began life with a life-threatening aspiration. After, doctors wondered if my brain function would be affected. Yes, it’s true. From the start, easy has not been my style.
I often try to find the humor in harsh circumstances. I believe it to be a survival skill. Perhaps it’s just irreverence. Why deny the obvious? I AM irreverent.
I’ve been telling the story of our difficult birth on I Want to be a Daddy. Our son’s life was threatened by a placental abruption, and a bit of luck had us in the right place at the right time. When the abruption occurred, we were in triage at Prentice Hospital. That saved his life. He would not have survived the trip from our home.
Nonetheless, it was a difficult birth and a difficult two weeks while he stayed in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU). We hated leaving without him and felt ripped apart by every delay that extended his stay.
In the end, we could look back, breathe a sigh of relief, and appreciate the world with him in it.
JK bemoaned the difficult way, “Why does everything have to be so hard?”
I answered, “We don’t do easy. It just isn’t our style.”
If you are reading this, then easy probably isn’t your style either.
Do you sweat every day of a pregnancy because you’ve never been able to carry a child to full term? If so, easy is NOT your style.
Have you felt the slow torture of doctor-enforced bed rest for three, four or more months? Or even hospitalization? Easy is NOT your style.
Do high-risk pregnancies sometimes seem to be grossly unfair? They are. It would appear that difficult, complex and painful IS your style.
Let that be your mantra, my beloved readers. Embrace the difficult. Laugh it off. Quit looking at the easy like something you are missing out on.
After all, it just isn’t your style.