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Infertility Is…A Community

a blog by Kim Griffiths, April 25, 2013

I remember getting a phone call from my OB-GYN informing me that my husband’s semen analysis results were abnormal. According to the Kruger strict scale, 4% morphology is normal, but my husband’s results came back at 2% normal morphology; 98% of his sperm were misshapen and therefore probably could not penetrate an egg. Combined with the fact that my body couldn’t get it together to ovulate, we were basically taking a shot in the dark and hoping for the improbable to happen.

I was scared, I was devastated, I felt alone. I didn’t know anyone who had been diagnosed with infertility and didn’t know where to turn. It felt so personal, yet I wanted someone to share with. My friends didn’t quite understand what I was feeling and although they meant well, comments like “It will happen when it is meant to happen” didn't change my outlook.

I scoured the internet for resources and realized there are other women and men out there going through infertility. I came to learn that 1 in 8 couples were struggling to build their families, a statistic that has since narrowed to 1 in 6 couples. You can easily name six couples off the top of your head, yet the hush-hush nature of infertility might prevent you from ever finding out that your sister, your best friend, or your cousin shares your grief.

Fortunately, there are support forums like where women and men discuss their fertility concerns anonymously (or revealing as much information as they feel comfortable sharing). You quickly make friends, learn together, grow together, and hopefully resolve your infertility journeys together. You realize you are not alone and even if you don’t know anyone in real life who is dealing with infertility, the outpouring of support and empathy from the infertility community is enough to get you through your most difficult days.

For some, online support isn’t enough. That’s where RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association comes in. RESOLVE provides Peer Led Support Groups, a helpline, and professional mental health counselors to help you cope with infertility. You deserve to feel loved, supported, and emotionally balanced, especially during such a physically taxing time in your life.

Check out and RESOLVE’s support options, and you will quickly realize you are NOT alone. Infertility is a community.

To chat more about National Infertility Awareness Week, find Kim on as KimAtFertilityAuthority.


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