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The Pain of Infertility
a blog by lashaundra, March 24, 2011
The 12 years I battled infertility before adopting my son were some of the most painful years of my life. As many of you know, unless you've been through it, there's no way to describe it.
At times the pain was gut-wrenching. It felt as though I was outside a window looking in at everyone grow their families and go on with life — while I sat stagnant. Each person copes with pain, and conquers pain in different ways. My emotional, infertility pain did not subside until I adopted my son and first held him in my arms.
But even though the pain was gone, the memories would forever be in my heart and mind. You can't suffer through something as detrimental as infertility and emerge unscathed. Infertility was truly one of those painful, learning experiences that I am grateful for and wouldn't change. Going through infertility has not only made my family and I empathetic toward other infertile couples, but toward anyone who suffers. Also, I'm so grateful for my son. I know most parents love and feel gratitude for their children, but most infertile couples know the struggles of having a baby and what a true miracle it is.
Some infertile couples' pain gets better through the birth of their baby, while others' pain ends with adoption. Some decide to choose childfree living, while others patiently wait and keep hoping.
Never give up hope, I never did.