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A Dozen Eggs and a Box of Chocolates

a blog by Lori Butler, January 5, 2012

She is uber-organized and super-structured. She is reliable, punctual and never misses a deadline. No, she’s not Super Woman, just a close friend of mine, who will remain unnamed.

She color codes her calendar, labels the shelves in her pantry, backs up her computer on the same day every month, and I’d venture to say she probably folds her underwear.

She keeps a clutter-free home; everything has its place, including her black Sharpie marker.

While helping her prep for a holiday gathering, she asked me get the orange juice out of her fridge. When I opened the door, before my eyes were a dozen bright, white eggs. They had been carefully removed from the carton, and placed in a clear receptacle. How organized, how accessible!

Something, however, was out of place; I took a double take. Upon closer inspection, I noticed that each egg had been carefully marked with a month and a year. “What The Fork?” I thought to myself!

I asked my friend why she had logged in the eggs; she responded, “What? You don’t put the expiration date on YOUR eggs?"

This made me think … not about my eggs, but about my oocytes.

Women don’t know if their eggs are “good,” or viable, until they try to conceive. Generally speaking, the age of a woman reflects the health of her eggs; this however, is not always the case.

Premature ovarian failure (POF) can affect a woman during her prime childbearing years, making her menopausal. Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) can also affect young women, impacting their egg quality and ability to conceive. These are just two examples that defy the age-related rule.

If a woman knew that her eggs were “short dated,” would she decide not to a launch high-powered career or postpone having children? Similarly, knowing that her eggs had decades before their decay, would she gain traction in her career, and chose to become a mother later in life? Both scenarios are thought-provoking.

The fact remains that there IS uncertainty in this journey we call life. There are no crystal balls, no guarantees. One can just make educated choices, informed decisions and embrace a positive outlook.

Tom Hanks’ line from the movie, Forest Gump, resonates profoundly, “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” Ah, yes, excitement and joy do lie in the unknown!

Comments (1)

This is a thought provoking article. The visual of your friend's dated eggs sitting quietly in the refrigerator, waiting to be used is really quite profound when you related it to oocytes. The choices women make, as you pointed out, in career and family can sometimes effect the outcome of each...sometimes not.

We can only move ahead finding peace in what we do choose by trying not to be afraid of what we may miss out on if we had chosen differently. As we mature I believe we do come to find peace in our choices and joy in the life we have lived thus far. Thank you for this inspiring article.

D Alishouse

This has been posted on behalf of American Health Network - Reproductive Medicine, an Indianapolis fertility clinic supporting Egg Donation in Indianapolis. The information is not medical advice, and should not be treated as such. It is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. The reader should always consult his or her healthcare provider to determine the appropriateness of the information for their own situation or if they have any questions regarding a medical condition or treatment plan.

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