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Anything Can Happen
a blog by marie lee, Jan. 6, 2010
I’ve been collecting amazing fertility stories because they are the happiest kind.
If you want to read about a woman who was diagnosed with infertility, her FSH at 42 when she was 42, check out Julia Indichova’s book, Inconceivable: A Woman’s Triumph over Despair and Statistics. Julia decided to prove her doctors wrong and do everything she could to get pregnant and have a baby naturally. The result: I met her daughter!
Recently, I met a mom who has a special needs child (as do I). Her daughter is blind, which stems from a condition in her pineal gland. This girl, against all odds, when to Holland by herself to study, and met her husband (a seeing Dutchman). They wanted to have kids but their doctors told them it would be impossible not only because she didn’t make enough hormones due to her condition, but ALSO because her husband had some unfortunate condition where his sperm lacked tails. This woman said her daughter cried and cried and then resigned herself to being childless.
Then one day she had a positive pregnancy test. The doctors said it HAD to be wrong. It wasn’t. They said she would miscarry. She didn’t for the first trimester. Then the doctors said she had to be put on all these hormones so she could carry to term. She told them to forget it. (They were wrong about her being able to get pregnant, so she was going to do it her way.) She had a remarkably easy delivery. Her daughter is now a year old.
My best friend from high school was told that because of her endometriosis, she was infertile. No need to bother with the birth control, they said. She didn’t. And then became pregnant. Her doctors told her she’d never carry her child to term, anyway. She did. She called me one day out of the blue to tell me she’d had a baby. I had to fly back to Minnesota to see for myself, I was so convinced she was joking. “Oh well,” she said. “They said it was a once-in-a-lifetime fluke.” To make a long story short, she now has two kids. Two wonderfully healthy sons.
These stories are not ones of infertility, but ones of “Anything Can Happen.” I don’t know you and your situation, but I do know these people, and guess what? Their doctors didn’t have the last word, did they? So if someone says you can’t, consider the Chinese proverb: The person who says he cannot do should get out of the way of the person who is doing.