Five ways to put the spotlight back on you and your partner
Does Valentine's Day seem like another painful holiday to you this year? The pressure to make Valentine’s Day all about sex and romance can feel daunting, especially if you have your baby-making sex scheduled down to the minute, and all you can think about are basal body temperature charts, ovulation and the possibility of in vitro fertilization (IVF).And, of course, if you're taking fertility drugs, you could be dealing with bloating, hot flashes or mood swings, making sex seem remarkably unsexy.
The good news is there are ways to enjoy Valentine’s Day even if you are in the middle of your fertility treatments.
“The nice thing about Valentine’s Day is its focus on the couple,” says Leslee Murphy, an infertility therapist at Houston Fertility Counseling who also works on-site at Houston IVF. “A lot of the other holidays — Christmas, Easter, Mother’s Day — are more about the family and children, but Valentine’s Day is about you and your partner.”
So snuggle up with your sweetie and read through our list of Five Ways to Cope with Infertility This Valentine’s Day.
Infertility comes with many emotions. Hidden emotions of infertility are a common struggle and many couples often find themselves dealing with and feeling like they have no one to talk to. Should you keep those emotions hidden or should you openly share your struggle? Self-esteem, depression and stress are the three most common emotions and addressing them during this emotional roller coaster is proven to help you work through infertility and the struggle with this disease.
If you are having trouble trying to conceive or suspect you have infertility, you might be wondering which doctor is right for you: OB-GYN or Reproductive Endocrinologist (fertility doctor). As a former fertility patient myself and huge fan of my OB-GYN, I went through a wavering thought process before I made the call to my fertility doctor: “Why can’t I just work with my OB-GYN and take Clomid?”... “Ok, I know we can do this!”... “The thought of a fertility clinic is intimidating!”... “Does this mean I need to do IVF?”... “The fertility doctor will know how to treat us!”
Men taking antioxidant supplements to improve their fertility is a trend that is growing in close proportion to both the increasing prevalence of subfertility in couples trying to conceive, as well as the increasing awareness that male factors can be a significant problem during this potentially challenging phase in a couple’s relationship. It is well known now that male factors are the sole cause of infertility in 30% of couples who have difficulty conceiving, with another 20% attributable to both male and female factors.
When trying to conceive, some days are more fertile than others
When you are trying to conceive, there are certain times in your menstrual cycle when you are more fertile than others. Fertile days occur around the time of ovulation, when your ovaries release a mature egg for fertilization. If you are trying to get pregnant, it is important to plan sex during your most fertile days.
Did you know men have healthier sperm in the winter and spring? I didn’t, but I wonder if that is the reason my in vitro fertilization (IVF) cycle in April 2010 was successful.
A new study published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology examined semen samples of 6,455 men, between January 2006 and July 2009, who were being treated for male factor infertility. Researchers found higher count, higher motility, and fewer men exhibiting morphology problems when the sample consisted of sperm made in the cooler months. A sperm production cycle takes approximately three months, so sperm produced in the fall was likely collected in the winter and sperm produced in the winter was likely collected in the spring. Sperm quality showed a steady decline into the summer and fall months, sperm which would have been produced in the spring and summer months.