I’ve been working in the field of adoption for over 30 years so you’d think I’d understand how it works by now! Truth is that although there are some aspects of adoption that are pretty clear and straightforward, adoption is a confusing, ever changing (but ultimately wonderful) path to parenthood. This is the first in a series of blogs that I am writing for the FertilityAuthority about adoption. My focus today is on how adoptive parents and birthparents are “matched.”
I know that pregnancies, miscarrying and the like are all personal issues, but some of these girls were good friends. I mean, really good friends. Why didn't I know they went through this? Sure, I couldn't have stopped it, but certainly I could have been a support for them. I could have prayed for them. I could have done something.
It’s been nearly three years since my last failed IVF cycle and I still don’t have a baby. You might think that sentence sounds kind of sad, I guess sometimes you would be right. But, oddly, you would also be wrong some of the time too, which is why I included the word ‘survivor’ in the title of my post.
PCOS affects about 5 percent to 10 percent of women of childbearing age and occurs among all races and nationalities. It is the most common hormonal disorder among women of reproductive age and is a leading cause of infertility. It is estimated that as many as 30% of women have some characteristics of the syndrome.
There is an invisible bar we infertiles constantly teeter on whenever one of our loved ones becomes pregnant; we struggle amid genuine excitement for their success, and nagging disappointment at our own failure. It’s the line between happy for you and sad for me. A place I know all too well.
PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) is a leading cause of infertility, affecting 5 to 10 percent of women of reproductive age. Lifestyle changes – diet, exercise and weight management – are often the best way to manage the hormonal imbalances that result from PCOS.
September is PCOS Awareness Month, and women everywhere are speaking out and sharing their experience with PCOS on blogs, Facebook, Instagram, and in support groups. Spreading awareness is important because PCOS is something that is relatively misunderstood in the medical field. From what causes it, to why some women have symptoms that others don’t... it’s a disease that strikes 1 in 10 women, and sometimes they have no genetic tie to it (like myself), while many women do. With it being PCOS Awareness Month, I’ve come to realize that there is a lot that we don’t know about PCOS. However, there is one important thing that we do know and it’s very important for doctors to understand: PCOS does not look the same for everyone.
Infertile people often have difficulty getting through holidays. We all know that. Most of us have experienced it first-hand. But one of the worst is Labor Day. I'm serious. (Okay, most of you know that even when I'm serious, I'm not serious. In fact when I preface something by saying: "I'm serious" you can bet money that I'm about to turn very sarcastic very soon.)
The deal with Labor Day is that a lot-- unfortunately for us-- revolves around kids. But not like Christmas where kids are everywhere: In pictures, in the mall, in your living room.
When it comes to your infertility, it can be very difficult to decide which type of doctor you should see. Is a fertility doctor, or reproductive endocrinologist appropriate for treating both female factor infertility andmale factor infertility? What about a urologist? The truth is, each doctor shares the goal of helping a couple have a baby and should refer you when a diagnosis is beyond their expertise.