I started Family Creations -- an international egg donor program that helps match intended parents with egg donors -- with the firm belief that families can come in all shapes and sizes, that they can be created in any number of ways, that the way it usually works isn’t always the way it has to. I believe it’s love -- not blood -- that makes a family, a belief that is very personal to me and my story. Because 28 years ago, I was adopted.
The holiday season can be a stressful time, even when things are going swimmingly. But add on the pressure of trying to conceive, and it can be especially hard to see this time as the "Most Wonderful Time of the Year!"
Here are some tools that can help ease the stress of the “festive” gathering and help you deal better with the holidays this season.
5 tools you can use to get you through holiday "festivities."
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RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association (RESOLVE) has been the voice for women and men diagnosed with the disease of infertility since 1974 by leading the charge through coalition building and grassroots advocacy activities. The progress made to date is not possible without the many volunteers who give their time, passion and voice to make a difference for themselves and others.
After we found out I couldn’t conceive or carry a baby, there was a long time where we just didn’t deal with it. We kind of shoved all that bad news into a closet and stood with our backs against the door, keeping it in, not wanting to look at it or think about it. Brad, my husband, had gently broached the idea of surrogacy, but I wasn’t ready to go there. I needed time to lick my wounds and wrap myself around the idea that it just wasn’t going to happen in my body. None of it.
So it was stuffed into the metaphorical closet, but every once in a while something happened that forced me to take a peek.
Fertility treatments are expensive. And about 30 percent to 50 percent of the total costs can be chalked up to fertility medications, particularly the injectables. For a single cycle, the medication costs can easily exceed thousands of dollars.
For many families, it’s hard to budget for the high cost of fertility medications. Given our current economic crisis, people are finding it harder and harder to afford fertility treatments as well as the costs of the medications needed for the treatments to work.
I'm happy to report that pharmaceutical companies are feeling your pain, and many are finding new ways to ease your burden. Three major fertility drug companies — EMD Serono, Ferring Pharmaceuticals, and Merck — offer special programs that lessen the cost of many of the most common medications used in fertility treatments today.
Women who have experienced infertility desperately long to hear the words “You are pregnant.” And when you do, there is a sense of elation and disbelief as you recognize that your dreams of pregnancy are now a reality. However, for many women there is a lingering fear that something will go wrong during your pregnancy and you may lose your baby. You won’t allow yourself to believe your baby will be healthy until you see it and hold it in your arms. Where does this anxiety come from and how do you make it go away?
We will continue to work on a federal bill requiring insurance coverage for infertility treatment even if takes 15 years of advocacy efforts—like it did to secure passage of Connecticut’s state law mandating coverage!
When I called my parents to tell them we were considering surrogacy my dad’s first question was “How do you know these people aren’t doing drugs?” It was valid. How did I know? How would I ever know?
We’d read through a pile of applications and one had floated right to the top for both of us: Shannon & Brad. A smiling couple who lived a couple of hours away from our San Francisco home. Nearly ten years younger than we were – married just as long but with two little girls and a vasectomy behind them – this was a couple who’d decided, for sure, they weren’t having more kids. On paper they were ideal – she ran a home day care (could she love kids any more???); he was a local store manager. Her application talked about how much she loved being pregnant, how easy it was and how they didn’t want any more of their own but she missed, actually missed, being pregnant. They’d passed their preliminary psychological screenings – no red flags.
Four people size each other up to see if they can make a baby together.