It seems we’re in the midst of a baby boom. If you look at birth rate statistics, there has been a steady increase each year since 1997. Every single day someone is telling someone else that she is pregnant. As an older-than-average-aged child bearing couple (we're both 37), we have watched as most of our friends and family add new members to their broods. Getting news about someone else’s pregnancy can be a sobering and downright depressing experience. Just as every single relationship is unique, so are our responses.
As IVF/ICSI #1 fast approaches, my jaw drops to think this is our first time ever really trying to get pregnant. This is our first shot. I mean, we didn’t have a fighting chance even once during our au naturale attempts over the last 18 months. Just knowing that for the first time it is really going to be possible for baby-making to become fruitful has brought back bittersweet memories of hope from what feels like another life . . .
What the “fertile” world fails to truly appreciate is the superhuman effort it takes not to get all pissy about mommy and baby talk – especially when an infertile is feeling the effects of her condition in a visceral way. Let me point out a few of the seemingly innocuous gestures and comments that could whip up a black ire in no time flat if we let our anger get the better of us:
For more than 70 percent of families struggling to have a baby, fertility-related expenses must be paid completely out-of-pocket. How can this be, when almost one in six couples are in this situation? Why won’t more insurance companies foot the bill for at least some of these expenses? It just doesn’t make sense.
Advice on managing the costs of infertility treatment.
First built in the mid-1970’s, this property has never been lived in, not even on a temporary basis! It has been actively marketed for 2 years and despite numerous viewings by keen sperms and infrequent visits by eggs, it has yet to find suitable tenants. It is currently undergoing a thorough clean out with the Coil cleaning company – a six month procedure - and is expected to be back on the market and available to rent from July 2009.
Last month our (then) all-female team launched FertilityAuthority – a web portal we’ve tagged “your most trusted source for everything fertility.” Now some would say that starting a business in the current economic environment is crazy (and you know what, they'd be right!), but reproductive medicine is a $3 billion industry and we see an opportunity to be profitable and make a difference in people’s lives.
My infertility journey started when I got married at 42. I didn’t think about my age until my doctor told me that being over 35 limited my chances of becoming a parent. Our journey lasted almost four years, and an egg donor gave us the gift of parenthood. My daughter, Grace, was born when I was almost 46.
It is unbelievable to me how much my life suddenly seems to revolve around infertility. I see the world through infertility-colored glasses, yet struggle not to define myself by it. It seems to be the first thing I think about in the morning, and the thing that leaves my mind racing and unable to rest at night.