Just as we are all recovering from Mother’s Day, the other Hallmark Holiday is fast approaching, just about a month away. While I find Mother’s Day to be the single most difficult day of the year for anyone struggling with infertility, Father’s Day is not exactly a breeze.
One thing is clear, I'm in the wrong damn business. Have you LOOKED at the price of greeting cards? $4.99 for a piece of poster board. Prettily colored, sure and nicely worded. But still, not typically more than a 5x7 bifolded piece of poster board. They spout platitudes such as, "To the World's Greatest Husband, Happy Birthday!" or "When life throws you lemons, stick them in your bra" (that's a real one - i'm not even making it up).
Okay, so this Sunday is the dreaded Father's Day. And there's a right way to handle it.
The great thing about Mother's Day is we all know how horrible infertile women everywhere feel on this day. How do we know? Well, we know, because we, the female half of the infertile couple, usually have no qualms about sharing our misery with others in our sucky sisterhood of the traveling hormones.
This Sunday is Father’s Day, so I wanted to use this opportunity to address all of the men that are part of an infertile couple. Many times we overlook what you have to endure during the fertility treatment process, so this post is my way of saying thank you for just a few of the many things you deserve credit for ...
Thank you for supporting us in our dream to carry a child.
I will always remember the first couple I knew who became parents through in vitro fertilization (IVF). I was very excited by their news and eager to celebrate with them. Hence, I remember being quite taken aback when they said to me, “We love our baby, but we are very sad at all the time we lost trying to have him. We look back on our 30s, and they are a blur.”
And so this is my third Father’s Day message to you: “Don’t let time slip by.”
I live in a world of “happy endings.” Everyone that I meet who is struggling to build or expand their family succeeds. Many travel a complicated and unexpected journey and take unanticipated paths, but ALL find their way to a happy ending.