Celebrating your own mom may work, but if not, take a day for yourself
Sunday is Mother’s Day. Unlike Valentine’s Day, which focuses on the couple, this commercialized day can be one of the hardest days for a woman coping with infertility.
“Mother’s Day can be a double whammy,” says Andrea Mechanick Braverman, Ph.D., a Pennsylvania health psychologist who specializes in infertility counseling. “Another anniversary of a year gone by without a baby — and a holiday that specifically excludes you.”
A new report by the CDC shows that women are delaying childbearing to pursue their careers and other endeavors. Given that women are more likely to become first-time moms over the age of 35, what does today's mom look like and what implications do these trends have on fertility?
It’s not your mother’s Mother’s Day. In 2013, the demands on women - financially, personally and career-related – are greater than ever. Dr. Angie Beltsos, Medical Director of Fertility Centers of Illinois, recognizes that women today face different challenges and opportunities on the path to parenthood than their mothers did. She outlines five ways motherhood has changed:
So, Mother's Day is long gone. If by chance you're still stinging from it, and I certainly hope you aren't ... just remember, there's always one thing you can rely on in these trying infertile moments:
Some of us probably got through Mother's Day more gracefully than others. It doesn't really matter — whether you ate some chocolate, burned some bridges, walked away from family plans, stormed out of them, sucked it up with a big smile or told people to "screw off."
Recently, I was on the phone with my mother. We were discussing what to do this year for Mother’s Day. Without me asking, she gave me an out, telling me that I don’t have to be there this year given everything that is going on.