Today, we have loads of data on the benefits of the mind/body connection, which I define as : The spiritual, psychological and emotional connection between the state of the mind and that of the body. And there is an abundance of strategies that promote this connection ,including writing, mindfulness practice, spirituality, connecting with nature, movement, body work, meditation, visualizations, etc. My intention in this blog series is to give you one simple tool each time and I’d love to hear what your experience was in trying it.
Dealing with infertility can be very stressful on many levels. We’ve all seen those psychological impact surveys that state that women with infertility experience depression and anxiety similar to those diagnosed with cancer and other major illnesses. Infertility impacts so many parts of ones life. It’s a physical, mental, emotional, relational and financial experience that can really rock a person to their very foundation. That’s why finding ways to stay grounded and sane during your journey to parenthood is so important.
Whether or not we have specifically taken vows to be by each other’s side “no matter what,” it’s safe to say that we have an expectation that our partners will be by our sides when things get crazy. With the serious body blows that can come along with the fertility journey, it’s likely that we have never had to call upon our partners to be there for us as frequently, or intensely.
“Us” Time in the TTC Free Zone is about creating a time and space where you and your partner are free from thinking and talking about your fertility treatment. You are both dealing with the stress of your journey in your own terms when you are apart, and undoubtedly when you are together. Give your “We” permission to just take a deep breath. Take a break from fear spirals and just kick back!
Easter and Passover can be difficult for individuals, couples trying to conceive
It’s that time of year that tends to revolve around babies, children and family. Whether it’s the eight-day festival of Passover or the endless Easter egg hunts, baby bunnies, chicks and chocolate, you may feel like everyone and everything around you is shouting "new life" and "fertility!"
"Spring holidays can feel just as difficult for infertility patients if if it includes family gatherings or if there is a focus on child activities," says Phyllis Martin, LPC, who counsels individuals and couples undergoing infertility diagnosis and treatment. "Any time there is a focus on gathering, or we are surrounded with family, it can be painful. It is painful due to questions and comments from those that we love, because we see children in our family and wish we had them as well, and because we measure how much time has gone by."
One of the most effective ways of dealing with infertility is to connect with others going through a similar experience. I have found this to be especially true for women who so often cherish the opportunity to connect with others, to share and to feel that they are no longer”going it alone.” Infertility friends can be an enormous source of support and comfort and companionship. That is until she gets pregnant.
Anyone who has ever gone through infertility or suffered a miscarriage knows how painful it is when someone says to you, “Maybe it wasn’t meant to be.” When a close friend or family member say this, it elicits all sorts of emotions—and none of them feel good. Worse still is when you are the one wondering “Maybe I wasn’t meant to be a parent?” or “Maybe we weren’t meant to have another child?” or “Maybe this pregnancy that I wanted so deeply was not meant to continue?”
If I am honest, the holidays are one of the most difficult times to manage when it comes to infertility. This past weekend I was out shopping for a baby shower that I am attending next month and as I was in Baby Gap, the adorable outfits got to me.
You're alive. Do something. Don't just talk about it, go out there and do it. Don't just meditate about it, go out there and create it. Don't just pray about it go out there and take action; participate in the answering of your own prayer. If you want change, get out there and live it.