Many years ago, I knew a psychiatrist who was going through infertility. She became pregnant during a particularly stressful time in her life, enjoyed an uneventful pregnancy and an on-time delivery of a healthy daughter. When I called to congratulate her, she said, “Please tell people that stress causes fertility.”
How to shake off the doldrums and get your groove back
a blog by lashaundra, Mar. 10, 2010
Infertility is such a romance-killer. It can really stress a relationship, so much so that it makes it difficult to concentrate on your greatest blessing: your partner. The key to staying in check is to recognize your stress factors and try to lessen them, whenever possible.
Of course, to all of this, add winter's doldrums. S.O.S.!
Here's the bright side: Winter is a great time to have a couple’s massage, go on a trip, or just schedule some time together to reflect on what made you fall in love with each other in the first place. Most likely, it was long before either of you were involved in the trying and consuming world of infertility.
“When I sit down to do my yoga breathing or meditation my mind immediately fills with crazy thoughts . . . It’s impossible to relax!”
This is a common complaint from fertility patients who come to us in hopes of managing their stress. And they have a point! Moving from a highly stressed state to a state of relaxation can be very challenging.
Many spiritual teachers espouse the idea of “being fully present" or "in the ‘Now.’” My guru always says, “Learn to be a human being, not a human doing.” These seem like wise words from a wise man in a time when our lives are mostly dictated by “to do lists.”