Everybody knows that there are certain things you need to do when you’re pregnant. But the time before you conceive is often ignored. Taking care of your body may help you get pregnant. It can also improve the critical first few weeks of fetal development—a time you might not even know you’re pregnant. Here’s our list of the top 10 ways that you get your body baby ready for the new year!
A blog by Alexis DelChiaro, January 1, 2015
The New Year is all about new beginnings. The hope that this year will be better than the last, a clean slate to start anew and for us gals struggling with infertility, 12 chances to get the heck off this IF island. I'd like to think my new beginning will come in the form of a growing baby bump (crosses fingers) and hopefully it will...someday. But like any realistic and slightly bitter infertility warrior, I am well aware that it could be awhile before there's a crying baby in my empty nursery. Soooo in the spirit of personal growth, inner peace and fresh starts; I give you my 5 Fertility Resolutions for the New Year.
This holiday season, set some fertility resolutions for yourself. It’s easy to get pulled off center by relatives tugging at us to do or not to do things, that we know, in our hearts are best for us to do or not to do. Sometimes that looks like: “Oh, just come to this family gathering, everyone wants you to meet Baby X.” Or maybe it’s: “ Take a break from all that IVF stuff, it’ll be good for you.”
This week is National Infertility Awareness Week. After 10 years of struggling, there is still so much that I wish I had known going into this battle. I had no idea the sheer number of women (and couples) that have dealt with this burden. It was never really talked about when we started. I knew of a few couples that had suffered from miscarriages and such, but I was unaware just how many go through the infertility journey before becoming parents.
I am fortunate. Although I have the alphabet soup of infertility in my medical records (low AMH, DOR, AMA, MTHFR and MFI), thanks to in-vitro fertilization, ICSI and a great reproductive endocrinologist, Dr. William Ziegler, I have two beautiful daughters. Cycling for my younger daughter with a toddler in tow definitely had it's challenges. One thing we decided during that time was that it just wouldn't be feasible to do another fresh cycle, would this one work. It was hard enough to do IVF with ONE child at home. We couldn't imagine making our schedules work for another fresh cycle with two. Not to mention how horrible and run down the meds make me feel. No, another fresh cycle wasn't going to be in the cards. If we didn't get any frozen embryos from that cycle, then we were going to have to be done.
Les Brown, a famous motivational speaker, often says, “Life is not a dress rehearsal." It's particularly meaningful during the month of New Year's Resolutions.
The desire for positive life-changes is in the air during January. And yet, this desire often doesn’t last long. Men and women have good intentions, but they usually lose steam as they roll through the year. For many of my patients, their infertility makes them feel absolutely miserable. So how can we change that? This article may seem a bit harsh to some, but I am simply being honest … it's tough love, but I'm trying to help.
To quote Dr. Phil: “You need to hear what you need to hear."
To follow are some common themes I hear among my patients:
In my last blog post on surviving the holidays with infertility, I talked about how to institute a new habit that could change your life. The expression of gratitude makes you happy, stronger, resilient — and when you feel that way in your mind, your body responds accordingly. And the great news is that when you are happier, you actually get even more happy because of the wonderful thing called a feedback loop. Positive thoughts create positive physical changes which create positive thoughts....
This leads me to this post, where I would like to suggest ways to make real and lasting change in your life starting in the new year. Speaking from experience, I know intimately how difficult it is to say that you are going to change in certain ways, and then actually make it happen. What could be harder?
Despite staggering advances in fertility treatments, there is much that we still have to learn about human reproduction. While we are still learning about the nuances and interdependence of hormones and physiology, there are some areas in which we are certain that simple lifestyle modifications can enhance your fertility and the odds of conceiving and bearing a healthy child.
Take a look at the following checklist and note which life enhancers you can choose as part of your New Year’s Resolutions.