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Katie O’Connor is the founder of Shine Chicago, a unique support community to help women overcome infertility. She is a wife, mom, only child, marathon runner, fitness instructor, and infertility advocate! Check out my blog, like me on Facebook, follow me on Twitter, and explore my Pinterest!

"I am a wife to the love of my life and best friend, mommy to my Scooter, entrepreneur, infertility consultant and survivor, friend to women I think of as sisters, only daughter, cat lover (and fur-mom to my two girls), city dweller, marathoner, fitness instructor, coffee-a-holic, pizza lovin, cookie connoisseur, iTunes junkie, overly organized, sports lover (I-L-L, I-N-I, BEAR Down), superstitious, glass half-full type of girl…who is immensely passionate about all things women’s health – ESPECIALLY infertility and overcoming it!"

About The Blog:
I will be chatting about everything fertility! The good, the bad, the ugly! How it can inspire the best in us to shine through!


a blog by Katie O'Connor, April 7, 2014

You may have a girlfriend who is struggling with infertility as I type this. She is sitting alone worrying about everything…

Will I ever get pregnant?
Be a mom?
Feel normal again?
Not feel crazy – cuz man those meds can make you feel like you are in a constant state of PMS!

a blog by Katie O'Connor, January 16, 2014

Once you are diagnosed with infertility (whether yours has a name or is just simply "undiagnosed infertility") and you have the revelation that you won't be having that "pee on a stick" (or POAS) moment, you have to start learning the jargon, the new language of abbreviations (such as IF and ART), and what will become the new norm of testing, monitoring, and medicating. You are now part of a secret sorority of women.

a blog by Katie O'Connor, December 5, 2013

You're alive. Do something. Don't just talk about it, go out there and do it. Don't just meditate about it, go out there and create it. Don't just pray about it go out there and take action; participate in the answering of your own prayer. If you want change, get out there and live it.

I love this quote. Too often when you go through infertility (or any hard stretch in life), we put everything on hold. We literally stop living. It’s hard in the beginning to not feel like this. It’s something you want so badly, all you can think about, it starts to consume you. You worry about what you should be eating, should you be working out, should you enjoy that one cup of coffee or one glass of wine.

a blog by Katie O'Connor, October 22, 2013

Can you remember back to the moment you heard the words, “We are referring you to an infertility specialist” (aka Reproductive Endocrinologist or an RE). You probably felt a wave of emotions – sad, mad, confused, shocked, frustrated, jealous, or maybe you were just numbed by the news.

I remember when my OB-GYN told me there was nothing else they could do for me at their offices, and that I would have to see a new doctor. My issue was amenorrhea (or lack of a period). I got off the pill and nothing, nothing happened.

a blog by Katie O'Connor, September 30, 2013

Affects 1 in 6 couples
Totaling over 7 million people
1.5 million ART cycles are performed globally each year
Creating around 350,000 babies


The numbers are impressive! Imagine the entire city of New York experiencing struggles getting pregnant!

An article in Psychology Today entitled "When You’re Not Expecting" explains it perfectly that when you are going through infertility it’s like wearing a scarlet letter “I”.
“We may remember Hester Prynne whose scarlet "A," sewn to the front of her dress, branded her as an adulteress. But, for those of us with infertility, the letter "I" can be a prominent symbol in our lives, sometime public sometimes not. And we have some choices about how to "wear" that symbol.”

Women often don’t feel comfortable opening up about something so private and personal, but keeping all that emotion bottled up isn’t healthy. So many women feel a range of emotions when they learn they aren’t going to be able to get pregnant naturally: angry, broken, sad, depressed, shame, the list goes on. You try to put on a “strong” façade, walking around like everything is fine.

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