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The Male Perspective

Okay, let’s get one thing straight right off the bat. Yes, I’m a man. So what, you might ask, makes a man think he’s qualified to give personal advice on female infertility? Well, to start with, I, along with my wife, suffered through seven years of treatments that included 16 artificial inseminations, 10 IVFs, and a gestational surrogate who delivered our twin girls to term. I am also the author of the bestselling book “What He Can Expect When She’s Not Expecting: How to Support Your Wife, Save your Marriage and Conquer Infertility”, which I guess gives you some idea of where my expertise lie. As a husband going through this process, I was filled with hundreds of questions and nobody to turn to for answers. So now that I’m on the other side, I invite you and/or your significant other, to consider me that answer guy on everything from what a man’s role should be, to how to keep him involved in the process, to what he might be experiencing or feeling at any given step of the journey. I’m here to offer suggestions and happy to help, because truly… nobody understands what your husband’s going through as much as I do.

Have a question? Write me at marc at what he can expect and I’ll give you the answer.

Marc Sedaka is a screen and television writer, and author of “What He Can Expect When She’s Not Expecting: How to Support Your Wife, Save your Marriage and Conquer Infertility.” He’s also a proud father of three beautiful children (two born through a gestational surrogate and one who just came along naturally after the fact.)


frustrated woman

a blog by Marc Sedaka, February 11, 2014

My husband insisted we wait five years before having children and now we’re having fertility issues. Is it wrong for me to feel like he’s to blame?

a blog by Marc Sedaka, January 28, 2014

At our last doctors appointment, my husband had the nerve to compare his simple sperm donation to all of the painful and invasive tests I go through on a regular basis. Is this really fair?

a blog by Marc Sedaka, January 14, 2014

As much as I appreciate my husband not being as “crazy” as I am about our infertility struggles, I sometimes wonder if he doesn’t care if we ever have kids or not. Am I just being paranoid?

a blog by Marc Sedaka, December 31, 2013

My husband says I’m being “bossy” when I ask him to do simple things like show up for our doctor appointments. How do I keep him involved without seeming like a tyrant?

a blog by Marc Sedaka, December 17, 2013

Last week my husband shared our most intimate fertility details with his poker buddies and then pleaded ignorance when I told him not to do that. Shouldn’t he have known something that basic without me having to tell him?

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