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Annoying Things People Say about Secondary Infertility

When you're having trouble trying to conceive, you suddenly turn into a magnet for crazy people, pregnant bellies, and awkward advice. Here are some of the annoying things people say about secondary infertility, and ways you can respond. (Snarky comments optional)

Them: “Oh, it’s so much easier to get pregnant after you already had a baby. You’re SO fertile right after you give birth.”

You: Really? Then why am I experiencing secondary infertility? I wasn’t exactly thinking about getting pregnant during all of those late night feedings, diaper explosions, and extreme bottle washing sessions.

Them: “At least you have one baby. Think about all the people who can’t get pregnant at all.”

You: I truly feel for those people, but what does that have to do with MY uterus? Since when is it a crime to want another baby? Wanting another doesn’t mean I’m not happy about my first.

Them: “Why would you want another? Believe me, if I could go back … things are so crazy with two kids.”

You: Sounds like you have some regrets. Do you want to talk about that? I didn’t think so.

Them: "But your kid is already self-sufficient and practically grown up. Don't you want to get your life back and go on vacations or out for dinner and dancing?"

You: OMG! You're right. Vacations totally make up for my yearning to have another baby! Silly me. ::eye roll::

Current medical guidelines say women under the age of 35 should see a fertility doctor if they have been trying to conceive for one year with well-timed intercourse, but have not gotten pregnant. Women over the age of 35 should see a fertility doctor after 6 months of trying to conceive unsuccessfully. Keep in mind that if you've struggled with infertility before your first pregnancy, you should see a fertility doctor without delay. Fertility declines with age, so be proactive about your fertility treatment.

Our Patient Care Advocates have been through infertility and understand how you're feeling. No comments about the child you already have, just genuine support and assistance...we promise! Contact our Patient Care Advocates at 1-855-955-BABY (2229) to set up a consultation with a reputable fertility doctor in your area.

For additional support during your journey with secondary infertility, visit the Fertile Thoughts Secondary Infertility forum.